Post # 1

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Blushing bee
So we’re not having any pre-wedding events (engagment party, bridal shower) so we didn’t set up a registry (we also live in a small apartement and do not have room for much). Now I’m thinking maybe we should have one in order to avoid random gifts (crystal, wine glasses, frames, etc) on our wedding day? Should we register for a few things just in case? In my circle, I believe most people give cash as a wedding gift.
Post # 2

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Bee Keeper
ukitali :
We did not have a registry. My friend insisted on throwing me a bridal shower but I stressed that we weren’t registered and even suggested changing the name to a “brunch” because I didn’t expect gifts. My friend ended up surprising me by asking guests to chip in to send us on a weekend getaway and we got some travel kits and such to go along with the money. I wasn’t expecting it at all.
For the wedding, we didn’t get any gifts, we were given money.
I was given advice to do a small registry to avoid random gifts but I couldn’t bring myself to register for things I didn’t want or need just to avoid gifts.
And it was never an issue, I only received a few items related to travel at my shower.
Post # 3

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Busy bee
We didn’t have a registry and mostly received cash. We only got four boxed gifts, including two hideous, personalised picture frames. I don’t think registering, would have changed anything, we would have been stuck with those awful frames regardless.
Post # 4

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Worker bee
No registry necessary if you are not having a shower. Most people bring cash and a card as a wedding gift. I doubt you’ll get a lot of random things, but maybe a couple.
Post # 5

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Sugar bee
ukitali : we didn’t do one. also skipped the pre-wedding gifting events (no shower) and live in a small apt and have pretty much everything we need already. almost everyone just gave us a card with cash – we had a total of 4 physical gifts that people gave us, and at least 2 of those 4 items would have been what we were gifted regardless of whether or not there was a registry (one was a family heirloom type gift, and the other was a personalized gift that a friend gives to anyone who gets married).
Post # 6

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Helper bee
we initially didn’t have a wedding registry, but then was convinced we need one, so we did an amazon one. The RSVP and wedding resgitry then has been emailed to all the guest for a while now, only 5% of people gifted us through amazon. We don’t know if that is normal.
Post # 7

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Bumble Beekeeper
You don’t have to have a registry and having a registry is no guarantee that you will not receive random gifts.
Post # 8

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Helper bee
I would make a small registry for people who may ask, but I wouldn’t spend a lot of time on it, especially if mostly cash will be given.
Post # 9

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Newbee
I recently, today lol, registered for an art wedding registry so I am very excited about getting the painting and revamping my living room. The site is called mishkalo and it was fairly simple to use. I thought it might be complicated since it was a different sort of registry.