Post # 1
So I’ve had a somewhat difficult search for bridesmaids. My cousin was my first choice to be my Maid/Matron of Honor, but she declined because she’s quite a bit older than me (16 years) and she’s been in more than her share of weddings when all of her friends were getting married. So she’s retired herself from being in bridal parties now. My second choice was a friend from when I started university. I actually met my Fiance through her. But, she just moved across the country for an internship in medicine. It’s very intensive and she won’t be able to get the holiday time to come back for the wedding.
I finally have my 3 bridesmaids confirmed, and I am very happy with my choices – they’re all very excited to help out with the planning and being with me on my special day. The only thing is, while they are good friends (one is my FSIL), I don’t feel close enough to any of them to give them the title of Maid/Matron of Honor. I don’t want a bridal shower because I don’t care about the gifts and I’ve never liked going to them. I also don’t need a bachelorette party but if one of them wanted to plan it, I’m not against the idea. What do you all think about the idea of not having an Maid/Matron of Honor and just having all the bridesmaids share the more “traditional duties” of MOH? Fiance will be having a best man, however.
Post # 3
I personally do not think you need to have one if there is no one who can fill the role because it should be a special honor for a very close friend/relative – you shouldn’t have a Maid/Matron of Honor just to have one. There are many couples who choose to have no bridal party at all! It really is whatever you want to do 🙂
Post # 4
I’m not having a Maid/Matron of Honor I love all of my friends and I didn’t want to have to choose. However I do have my two closest best friends standing closest to me, and they will get a little extra something as a gift on the sly, but I’m doing pretty much everything and I know all the girls will plan the bach party together cause we are all pretty close friends.
Post # 5
I couldn’t choose and it didn’t feel right to single out one of my very special ladies as Maid/Matron of Honor, so I am having them all be part of the “bridal party” and not using the terms Maid/Matron of Honor or Bridesmaid or Best Man at all.
Post # 6
I dont’ have a Maid/Matron of Honor, I have 4 wonderful bridesmaids. Fiance has 3 Groomsmen and 1 best man. It’s just fine!
Post # 7
- Wedding: May 2011 - Bartram's Garden
I’m not having a Maid/Matron of Honor, I just have 3 BMs.
Post # 8
Honestly, it makes sense in your situation. There’s nothing wrong with that, I will probably end up doing the same when the time comes. I think unless one person really stands out among the rest, or it’s a sister or something, then it’s a good idea, but otherwise, I think no…