Post # 1
Should I do assigned seating? We are having stations and pretty informal wedding. Some people say I don’t need one, but others are telling me that guests will prefer that so they can leave their stuff at their seat.
What do y’all think? Is assigned seating necessary?
Post # 3
Not necessary, but it’s nice to have. Guests do like having a table where they can comfortably leave their things and where they don’t have to worry about the size of their group. For a station reception, you could easily get away with doing assigned tables only and letting guests pick their seat at their table. Assigned seats are most useful for plated meals and IMO it’s not worth the effort for a buffet or station reception.
Post # 4
“Assigned seating” can mean assigning each guest a specific seat or just assigning each guest to a table while leaving specific seat choice up to them. It looks like bees responding might not know which you’re asking about- you might want to clarify in your original post or poll.
Post # 5
As a guest, I prefer assigned seating. At a stationed wedding, I might just do assigned tables – just to make sure guests have somewhere to leave their things and they don’t have to do the middle school cafeteria scramble.
Post # 6
Just assigned tables…sorry I s should have clarified that!
Post # 7
We assigned tables, but not individual seats. It worked very well for us 🙂
Post # 8
Do tables at least. Otherwise you will probably end up with a bunch of people crammed at one table while others may be left empty, or groups may end up split up since there aren’t enough chairs left at one table, etc.
Post # 9
i personally would prefer at least assigned tables.
Post # 10
I prefer unassigned seating, and at the most, assigned tables. There are enough things for the bride to worry about on top of making sure she doesn’t unintentionally seat feuding family members at the same table (and with my in-laws, that’s more common than you’d think).
But honestly, at weddings I’ve been to with unassigned seating (which are the majority of them), then after dinner people typically do leave their things at the table they ate at because it’s “their” seat.
At DH’s cousin’s wedding a couple weeks ago it was unassigned, buffet (in the adjacent room) and most people did leave their jackets and purses at the tables. It was fine.
Post # 11
Assigned tables is a good compromise. Agreed with PPs that if you don’t, people will move chairs and push tables so they can sit near everyone they want. It starts to clog the aisles and people carrying their food have to wiggle their way to a seat. It eliminates the chaos. Even with assigned seats, people will swap their seats to sit next to someone else. Once they are done eating, then people typically will go sit elsewhere and move around to chat with everyone else.
Post # 12
I think assigned tables is a must. Then people have a “spot” to leave things, they know they can sit together with their group even if they arrive late, etc. A free for all seating arrangement always seems to end with someone unhappy.
Post # 13
Assigned Tables for sure. Receptions where you have to wander around to find a seat are a pain. Then you’ll have a seat, get up for a few minutes come back and it’s gone…just easier to assign them!
Post # 14
Need? No. But I prefer assigned tables because it’s awkward to have to go and look around and try to decide where to sit. Especially if you show up later than everyone else and can’t sit with your friends or are stuck with people you don’t know.
Post # 15
@bleusteel: I’m doing stations too! Well, I’m doing stations for the mail courses. We decided to do a plated salad to bring it together a bit more. Either way I wanted everyone to have a home base for the evening.
I’ve only been to one wedding without assigned tables and I found it super awkward. FI and I only knew the bride and groom and it was just strange. I guess that helped make up my mind but I think it’s nice for your guests to have a set table with other guets that you think they’re get along with and enjoy spending the party with.
Post # 16
i would do table assignments unless i had more than enough seats for everyone because if you leave it open seating, you will likely end up with one or two empty seats at each table because people don’t want to split up. but most weddings i’ve been to (and my own) the assignments are more for dinner because everyone gets up to mingle.