(Closed) Do I NEED Save The Dates??

posted 9 years ago in Paper
  • poll: Are you sending out Save the Dates?

    Yes! It's a must

    No, I don't see the point

    Other: evite, email, please explain

  • Post # 3
    804 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    Where I’m from we don’t do them. Its just another way for a stationery company to make money.

    Post # 4
    442 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    Well… I have friends who sometimes get booked up socially months in advance! So I’d definitely want to get some kind of save the date out to them. But i also think that as adorable as hand held physical Save the Dates are it’s not necessary. I’ve had save the dates emailed, texted and bbm’d to me and I had no problem with that. I do appreciate the heads up more than how it’s given.

    Post # 5
    157 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I did them, and they turned out really cute (photobooth type fridge magnet). However, I found that it wasn’t really necessary. Your close friends and family will save the date whether they have a phyical reminder or not. People that are not so close will not necessarily save the date whether they receive something or not. So I say they are not necessary, unless you are  having a wedding that is Out of Town for most guests.

    Post # 6
    14017 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    We did Save the Dates because our wedding involves a bit of travel for most of our guests, and we wanted to give them ample time to plan and save.  If that’s not an issue for you, I wouldn’t worry about them too much. 

    Post # 7
    2362 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: December 2017

    We did bc we had a lot of Out of Town people.

    Post # 8
    24 posts
    • Wedding: December 1969

    We did, because people are busy and if you want them to come, you have to give them a ‘heads up’. Also as a guest I’m really dissapointed if someone doesn’t give me a lot of notice, Ive missed a couple of weddings because I had plans that I couldn’t break and still regret not being able to go.

    I would also add this: Don’t get caught up thinking you have to do something perfect. I have friends who sent out a regular old text email just to get on people’s calendars and it was FINE! a half-way measure is to create a nice jpeg image and embed it in a gmail.

    My .02 🙂

    Post # 9
    11535 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2009

    I chose not to send save-the-date cards primarily because I knew I would have a lot of trouble wrestling with the final guest list, since there were so many people we wanted to invite but our venue and budget would not have been able to have accommodated them all. I knew I would have to wait to invite many my friends until after some members of our extended families had declined, and I did not want to have to worry about who did and did not not receive a save-the-date notice. Although I understand the point of sending them, and sometimes I’ve wished that I had one just because I think it would have been nice to have one as a keepsake, I am very happy with my decision not to have them, as not having them provided me with greater flexibility in managing my guest list and invitations.

    Post # 10
    505 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    We did them and sent them out about 9 months before the wedding.  Im glad that I did because we found out later a few of our friends were also invited to another wedding on the same day.  Since they received our save the date first, they are attending our wedding.  

    We also had another couple that were planning a cruise the same weekend of our weekend and received our save the date and pushed back their vacation by 2 weeks.

    Post # 11
    3622 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    My answer to your title is no, my answer to your poll is yes.

    Post # 12
    615 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    Save the Dates are dependent on how far off your wedding day is, whether it is a destination wedding, and whether or not you’ll have a lot of out of town guests.

    They’re not necessary by any means. Save the Dates are more of a popular trend, and they’re far more likely to get tossed into the garbage than the invitation.

    Post # 13
    1766 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    We didn’t do one.  I wanted them at first, but they seemed like just another expense we could cut.  Mother-In-Law was excited about the wedding, so she spread the word throughout DH’s family, and my parents did the same with my side. I don’t think anybody was surprised by the invitation.

    Post # 14
    194 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I think save the dates are a fairly new concept, so I don’t think it’s absolutely necessary.

    Post # 15
    591 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    We did them only because we are having a Friday night wedding and wanted to give people a head’s up in case they needed to take vacation time from work!

    Post # 16
    10449 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2014

    We aren’t doing this. Everyone knows when the date is anyway so I don’t see the point to waste money on some paper that they will just throw out. 

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