Post # 1
I dont realllllly get the point of save the dates. Why not just send invitations?? Is it so custom to send save the dates that it may come off as if we’re being cheap if we don’t? A couple hundred dollars on save the dates is definitely in my budget, I just don’t get it. Seems like a lot of extra work for I dont know what!
I wasn’t planning on putting a ton of info on my invitations anyway.. was going to list everything on a website.
Post # 3
Where I’m from we don’t do them. Its just another way for a stationery company to make money.
Post # 4
Well… I have friends who sometimes get booked up socially months in advance! So I’d definitely want to get some kind of save the date out to them. But i also think that as adorable as hand held physical Save the Dates are it’s not necessary. I’ve had save the dates emailed, texted and bbm’d to me and I had no problem with that. I do appreciate the heads up more than how it’s given.
Post # 5
I did them, and they turned out really cute (photobooth type fridge magnet). However, I found that it wasn’t really necessary. Your close friends and family will save the date whether they have a phyical reminder or not. People that are not so close will not necessarily save the date whether they receive something or not. So I say they are not necessary, unless you are having a wedding that is Out of Town for most guests.
Post # 6
We did Save the Dates because our wedding involves a bit of travel for most of our guests, and we wanted to give them ample time to plan and save. If that’s not an issue for you, I wouldn’t worry about them too much.
Post # 7
We did bc we had a lot of Out of Town people.
Post # 8
We did, because people are busy and if you want them to come, you have to give them a ‘heads up’. Also as a guest I’m really dissapointed if someone doesn’t give me a lot of notice, Ive missed a couple of weddings because I had plans that I couldn’t break and still regret not being able to go.
I would also add this: Don’t get caught up thinking you have to do something perfect. I have friends who sent out a regular old text email just to get on people’s calendars and it was FINE! a half-way measure is to create a nice jpeg image and embed it in a gmail.
My .02 🙂
Post # 9
I chose not to send save-the-date cards primarily because I knew I would have a lot of trouble wrestling with the final guest list, since there were so many people we wanted to invite but our venue and budget would not have been able to have accommodated them all. I knew I would have to wait to invite many my friends until after some members of our extended families had declined, and I did not want to have to worry about who did and did not not receive a save-the-date notice. Although I understand the point of sending them, and sometimes I’ve wished that I had one just because I think it would have been nice to have one as a keepsake, I am very happy with my decision not to have them, as not having them provided me with greater flexibility in managing my guest list and invitations.
Post # 10
We did them and sent them out about 9 months before the wedding. Im glad that I did because we found out later a few of our friends were also invited to another wedding on the same day. Since they received our save the date first, they are attending our wedding.
We also had another couple that were planning a cruise the same weekend of our weekend and received our save the date and pushed back their vacation by 2 weeks.
Post # 11
My answer to your title is no, my answer to your poll is yes.
Post # 12
Save the Dates are dependent on how far off your wedding day is, whether it is a destination wedding, and whether or not you’ll have a lot of out of town guests.
They’re not necessary by any means. Save the Dates are more of a popular trend, and they’re far more likely to get tossed into the garbage than the invitation.
Post # 13
We didn’t do one. I wanted them at first, but they seemed like just another expense we could cut. Mother-In-Law was excited about the wedding, so she spread the word throughout DH’s family, and my parents did the same with my side. I don’t think anybody was surprised by the invitation.
Post # 14
I think save the dates are a fairly new concept, so I don’t think it’s absolutely necessary.
Post # 15
We did them only because we are having a Friday night wedding and wanted to give people a head’s up in case they needed to take vacation time from work!
Post # 16
We aren’t doing this. Everyone knows when the date is anyway so I don’t see the point to waste money on some paper that they will just throw out.