Post # 1
My FH and I are getting married in December 2018, and with some overseas and out of town family, we are hoping to send out Save-The-Date Cards as soon as we get our engagement pictures back in a couple of weeks. We are hoping to have a wedding of about 75 people, but when we sat down yesterday to make our guest list, we had 105. Do we need to cut down the number of invites to 75, or should we invite who we want, assuming some won’t be able to come?
Post # 2
Does your budget and venue allow for 105 if everyone shows? If so, I would just invite them all. But in the end, you may only end up with a couple of extra people. It really depends on if you can afford the extra guests. But you’re saying you have overseas and out of town family, so there is likely to be some that won’t be able to make it.
Post # 3
I would suggest only inviting those that you can afford to host properly if that’s only 75 then only invite 75. If you want the 105 to attend the wedding then invite the 105 just make sure you can afford whatever guest amount you have to host.
Post # 4
you need to assume 100% attendance as it is a possiblity, and so you need to have both the budget and space for 100% of your guests. So if you can afford and accommodate all 105, you invite all 105 and then if some decline that just means you save some money. But if you can only afford and accommodate 75, you invite 75.
A and B lists are unpopular on here, but that’s another option; if you send invitations out with enough time then if you get declines you can always invite a second batch of people. If you do this though you need to make sure they don’t know they’re on the B list.
Post # 5
Invite only the number you can afford to host and which meets the venue capacity. Do not invite 105 guests if your venue can only comfortably and legally fit less than 105.
When you host an event you run the risk of not everyone showing up. That is just something you have to be prepared for as the host.
Post # 6
Like PPs said, if your venue can’t hold 105, don’t invite 105. If your budget can’t support 105, don’t invite 105. People tend to surprise you with coming to weddings because they like to celebrate, or want to see family/friends they haven’t seen for a while. Even if you think there’s a good chance they won’t come, you need to count them as a yes until you hear otherwise.
Post # 7
Invite the number that you can host.
Post # 8
Are you saying that you want 75 people because that is the amount you can afford? If 75 was just a number you guys thought of but it has nothing to do with your venue capasity or budget. Then invite the 105 just make sure that you included significant others in that number. If 75 people is the amount that you can afford then I wouldn’t invite more than 85 people.
Post # 9
Agree with pps.
If you want 75, invite 75 and no more. Whatever reason you have, budget, venue limit, space, etc. don’t count on the stars aligning to make up for over-inviting.