Do i need to disclose that my stone is moissanite when getting set?

posted 3 months ago in Rings
  • poll: Should I disclose that my stone is moissanite
    Yes they could ruin it! : (75 votes)
    91 %
    No they will just judge you anyway : (7 votes)
    9 %
  • Post # 31
    652 posts
    Busy bee

    heatherlw :   I bought a oec moissanite after C&C discontinued them. I loved the look of old cuts and knew for ethical reasons that I did not want a diamond. Fiance and I weren’t even dating then.

    Fast forward to when we started ring shopping, I chose a jeweler who worked with moissanite specifically. So I had approached them with the understanding that they would be setting a moissanite.

    After we had gotten engaged, and I needed it sized, I took it back to have it sized down. I was working with a different person and there was an awkward moment after they took the ring and were about to take it into the back room and they tested it. They asked if I was sure my Fiance had bought the ring at their store and I said yes, and realized what had happened and told them not to worry I knew it was a moissanite, as I had picked it out. And they laughed and breathed a sigh of relief.

    Point being, at some point in time, they are going to know. Just tell them and avoid any awkwardness. If a jeweler judges you for choosing moissanite,  don’t go to them. Find a jeweler who works with you.

    Post # 33
    517 posts
    Busy bee

    Who cares what the jewler thinks. His profession is to set, design, mend and sell jewlery. Not to judge stones and be a snob lol 

    If he is doing that, go to someone else.

    But in answer to your question, ofcourse tell him. I’m sure he will know anyways.

    Post # 34
    1747 posts
    Bumble bee

    PrincessPeach13 :  this is the part I don’t get about moissanite. People preach about it beings it own stone and it’s not a sim. And then I see thread after thread about people thinking their fooling people with it or treating it like a diamond. 

    It’s not a diamond, it’s a clear stone that can pass as a diamond. It’s a synthetic sim really. Not everyone has the budget to get the diamond of their dreams. Maybe they don’t want to support diamonds. But a moissanite isn’t fooling a jeweller and it’s not going to fool someone who knows about diamonds. And it’s pretty disingenuous to pretend a sim is a diamond. 

    I read about oil slicks, tarnishing and the other issues and wonder why people spend a lot of cash on what’s basically an expensive synthetic stone with good advertising. 

    Either own the fact that you have a moissanite and stop trying to play it off as a diamond. Or just get a smaller diamond. But don’t underestimate the side eye your going to get from someone knowledgeable when your “diamond” looks like a sim! 

    Oh and OP if your jeweller can’t tell the difference get a new jeweller they don’t know enough to be working on jewellery! 

    Post # 35
    102 posts
    Blushing bee

    I would 100% tell them.  It isn’t fair to the jeweler not to.   I guarantee though that they will be Be able tell within a few seconds of looking at it anyway.  If they can’t, then I personally Wouldn’t let them touch my ring.  I am Not a jewelry expert, and have personally only had diamonds, no stimulants. But… I was standing next to a woman with a beautiful large stone and setting couple months ago.  I looked At it, and could instantly see it wasn’t a diamond.  It was the way it sparkled. I complimemted her on Her ring, it was really quite beautiful, and she didn’t say it wasn’t a real diamond, but I could Definitely tell.  I think IRL, you can pretty easily tell the difference.  I dong Understand how a reputable jeweler could not spot a moissonite.  Unless I am Missing something….

    Post # 36
    5817 posts
    Bee Keeper

    Regardless, moissy or diamond, a true jeweler will not care what the stone is and will be able to set the stone properly without needing to know what it is.

    Post # 37
    683 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2011


    ladyvk :  you must not be familiar with moissanite or amora gems because they DO test positive as diamonds in the testers.

    Post # 38
    367 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2016

    DaniGirl03 :  this. Perfect. 

    Post # 39
    444 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2005

    rachie5478 :  thanks for backing me up! I’ve read so much about this on the Bee, I thought it is a well known fact by now. I actually bought myself a diamond vs. moissy tester just to play with and it correctly picks up the eBay moissy from India but lights up “diamond” for the Amora. Go figure!

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