Post # 1
- Wedding: April 2014 - Italian Villa
Our wedding is in Italy, which means many people are unable to attend. We have known for a while who is coming and who isn’t, but we sent out invitations and RSVPs to everyone, as is customary.
Well, FMIL’s brother sent back a “yes” RSVP. I was very taken aback by this, as he had not previously expressed any intention of going, but I thought, “maybe he was able to get things together to go,” and I sent Future Mother-In-Law a message about his RSVP since I was surprised (and sort of wanted to confirm this). She called to tell me that there is no way he is going, he just gets confused sometimes, and he probably meant to RSVP “yes” to the party she is throwing next month.
It sounds about right to me that he would get mixed up and check “yes” to the wedding when he meant “yes” to the party (which was RSVP by email), but part of me refuses to believe he didn’t read any of the invitation.
Do you think I should follow up with him about his RSVP to see what he meant? I would hate to embarass him if it was a mistake, but I also need to know if he is going to be there (very small wedding, we can’t just have an extra setting). Maybe I’ll bring it up casually at the party?
Your thoughts on this would be appreciated!
Post # 3
- Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas
Yes, I think you should just to be safe. It can’t hurt to ask him!
Post # 4
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
@gingerkitten: Yes, definitely call and talk to HIM, don’t just take a second hand answer from Future Mother-In-Law.
Post # 5
@gingerkitten: yeah just call him up or have Fiance call to clarify
Post # 6
@gingerkitten: I would just mention it to him at the party ‘it’s too bad more people can’t come to Italy but we knew it was a possiblity’ or something, giving him the opportunity to state if he’s coming or not.
Post # 7
I would just check with him to be sure. A quick casual phone call or email to him can clear it up. Tell him how happy you are that he’ll be celebrating with you and you just want to double check which party he’ll be attending. If you keep it light and say how happy you are he’ll be there I don’t think he’ll be embarassed.
Post # 8
I’d double check just in case!
Post # 9
@gingerkitten: Yep, just make sure. Don’t take his mother’s word for it; she isn’t actually running his life. Or… is she? lol
Post # 10
I would just call and confirm by saying “I just want to confirm with you that you understand the wedding will be in Italy and you are able to travel.” You can make it sound like you are calling everyone and not just him in particular.
Post # 11
I would definitely double check. Just call him up and say that you got his RSVP to the wedding and wanted to confirm so that you could include him in any emails or whatever about travel accomodations.
Post # 12
I’m super awkward about things like this so I would maybe have someone ask for me so it doesn’t seem like I’m questioning his ability to correctly RSVP. Maybe have a cousin/aunt/whatever call him and ask if he’s going or say you never got his RSVP (things do get lost in the mail afterall) are were wanted to know if he was able to attend.
Post # 13
@gingerkitten: I would definitely double check – could be as simple as telling him how excited you are that he can come!
Post # 14
- Wedding: February 2014 - Silverthorne Town Pavilion
Why not call and say you are happy that he will be there and see if he corrects you? I would do that, but I am very close to future family 🙂
Post # 15
Ya you need to get to the bottom of this… and best done c/o the horse’s mouth (FBIL not the FMIL)
“Got your YES RSVP on coming to the Wedding in Italy, so excited to hear you’ll be joining us. I am now calling to confirm your email address, cause we’ll be sending out additional info to those who are planning to travel with (town / city) Hotel info etc”
That should work to set the record straight…
Post # 16
Yeah I’d probably just clarify with him to make sure