Post # 1
One of my sisters friends is getting married tomorrow. And my sister is one of the bridesmaids. I’ve known her for a long time, but we’re not ‘close’. Anyway, she asked me if I would come to the wedding and at the end of the dinner part of the reception, if I would babysit the grooms two children, just until the reception is over. I told her it would not be a problem.
I am starting to wonder if I should bring a small gift, or is the fact that I’m doing this favor the gift in itself? I think I should at least bring a card.
Post # 3
I really don’t think you need to bring a gift – you are doing her a huge favor and I’m sure she knows it! Babysitters you can trust on a big day are pretty important and rare! If you were a full fledged wedding guest, you would be able to dance and party however you wanted, but you can’t do that if you are babysitting. A card would be very nice, and perhaps you could mention how happy you were to be able to help them out on their special day – so she knows you considered it a favor and are not expecting to be paid. I did something like this for a friend of a friend and she fully expected to pay me for it (I didn’t let her).
Post # 4
If anything, she should be giving YOU a gift. You’re not technically invited to the wedding, so I would say no.
Post # 5
I agree with gji.. you shouldn’t feel obligated to bring a gift. The fact that you are doing this HUGE (trust me, it’s a HUGE favor) for her is a gift enough. A card is definitely acceptable, even though not really necessary either. The time you are giving to her to not have to worry about her step-kids during the reception is more valuable than any gift you could give her.
Post # 6
I agree with the above posts! This is a HUGE favor you are doing for the bride and family.
Post # 7
Agreed with previous posters – you deserve a some sort of medal and a big glass of wine at the end of the night!
Post # 8
I vote for a card, but then again, I’m a card happy kind of person.
Post # 9
Did you get an invitation in the mail? If not, then no gift!
I also vote for the card only.
Post # 10
Card only, and she gets you the gift.
Post # 12
I agree too! And is she paying you? She should be… I hope that she gets you something if she’s too cheap to pay you! You should be getting paid too! (but that’s just my opinion, i’m 24, i still babysit and i always get paid, even by my friends… but after the wedding, i will no longer accept payment from my friends. Clients yes, friends, no.)
Post # 13
No gift necessary. You’re not really a guest – you’re more like an unpaid vendor. I agree that SHE should be getting you at least a small gift – to express her appreciation – if not paying you outright.
That said, a nice card congratulating the couple is never out of line.
Post # 14
Thanks everyone for the responses! This is why I love WeddingBee….not only do I get great responses, but they make me laugh too!
I’m just going to give her a card with a note inside. I don’t expect to be paid, but if she buys me a gift I’ll accept it. She’s already told me that "I’m a lifesaver". And I don’t think she’s expecting a gift from me, but I didn’t know if I should get her one anyway. So thanks for the advice!