Post # 62
Wow, you ladies are really generous! If I had a dietary restriction (ahem… by choice as many vegetarians are) I wouldn’t expect to be catered to. I don’t like seafood. Any of it. But if I went to a wedding and that’s all the couple chose to serve I’d deal with it, eat the side dishes, and be appreciative of my free meal. I wouldn’t scoff at the idea of not going out of your way to please each individual guest.
Post # 63
I’m in this boat too. I try to accommodate people, but at some point guests should also be grateful. I can’t eat too much wheat or I will be sick, and all I ask is that I’m told ahead of time if it’s a wheat-filled dish so I can eat ahead of time. I don’t expect a special meal. I’m definitely thankful if I receive one, but I wont get upset otherwise. It’s frustrating dealing with dietary problems. (This is allergies/celiac aside.)
That being said though, hopefully OP you can just order one separate veggie meal aside from the buffet.
Post # 64
My venue doesn’t charge extra for a couple vegetarian meals. I would do what I can to feed the vegetarian. I was Maid/Matron of Honor at a wedding and the groomsmen’s girlfriend was vegetarian and fainted during the cocktail hour- the venue had to call the ambulaliable liability purposes which I totally understand, and luckily she was okay, but it did push back the reception schedule 30 mins and she and her groomsmen boyfriend missed almost the entire reception.
As bad as it sounds, how much I go out of my way would depend on how vegetarian other people are. I would put in more effort for people that have never had meat for religious reasons or havent had any meat in over 10 years than for people who are “vegetarian” for a month here and there or think they are vegetarian but still eat pepperoni pizza, fish, or chicken.
Post # 65
Perhaps some of your guests also have a +1 that is veggie? That was me for many weddings. I’m not a strict vegetarian anymore, but I still often pick the veggie option. I’m a bit confused by having to pick between 2 meat options but also having a buffet. Are those the 2 meats on the buffet? I’ve enjoyed many wedding buffets. Can you switch the rice for a pasta? Even an orzo pasta if you want to keep the rice shape? I’ve been to weddings with a buffet that included a pasta with pesto sauce and was a very happy camper. Pasta is very cheap, so there’s no reason for anyone to charge $20 (the cost of 20 lbs of dried pasta) per person for a pasta option. Or a gnocchi. There are lots of “side dishes” that can make for delicious veggie options. But unless its a flavorful risotto, rice isn’t usually it.
Post # 66
Our venue is letting us add on one vegan meal.
We’re having pork and chicken, one type of kids meal, and then exactly one vegan meal.
You should talk to your veggie friend and find out if they think they will get full off of what you are offering. If not, talk to your venue.
Post # 67
I’m vegan, and I would be fine with the salads and sides, I don’t personally think you would need to add anything else! 🙂
Post # 68
No worries everyone, I spoke with the venue today, and they will be able to add on individual vegetarian meals (or any other dietary restrictions)!
Post # 69
that is awesome. I personally feel if you know you have vegetarian guests and choose to throw them sides instead of a real meal it is rude. First thing we did when all of our girls hired caterers for their weddings was to ask about the vegetarian option. We have only ever needed one at each wedding but you can bet she was served as nice a meal as everyone else!
Post # 70
I work many weddings, and most of them are buffet. Usually we offer a “mushroom tarlet” as the veggie option and this only goes out to those who have requested it in advance. See if your venue will allow an special option like that.
Post # 71
We had a Destination Wedding with 45 guests and we asked every single guest personally for dietary needs and no one was a vegetarian. So its not ALWAYS necessary like some people think. For larger weddings I can see where you may want to have that an as option.