(Closed) Do I NEED to include our last names on the invite?

posted 6 years ago in Paper
Post # 3
452 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I don’t know if there is a “rule” about this.  We’re thinking about doing it because some of the older relatives whom we haven’t seen in a while probably won’t know who we are without a last name included lol

Post # 4
8738 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

I wouldn’t say it is awful, but it is highly informal. Is your wedding going to be informal?

The invite also usually indicates who is funding the wedding, so since my parents were paying our invite said:

Mr. and Mrs. Brides Father’s Name

invite you to the wedding of their daughter

My First Name My Middle Name


DH’s First, Middle, and Last name

So m last name was there because my parents name was on the invite, and then DH’s full name was on the invite.

Post # 5
765 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I’m torn about this. While my FIs last name is fine; my last name is surrounded by conflict (it’s my estranged fathers last name). 

I don’t think you have to by any means and I’ve seen plenty of invitations without last names. The only thing is people might not know who you are if they aren’t super close. 

Post # 6
871 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I’m doing our first names only but all the parents will have their name and last name…

It depends on what most people call you. My name is shortened and so is his.


My Mum first name and Dad first name, Last name

together with

His Mum first name and his Dad first name, Last name

have the great pleasure in inviting

_______________ & ___________________

to celebrate th marriage of

my name & his name

Ceremony details ect..

Post # 7
224 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2012 - Padua Hills Theater

Are you going to include your parents name? Either way I don’t think it’s that big a deal. If you parents names are on the invite then you don’t have to put your last names with you first. And if your parents aren’t on the invite as long as your return address or RSVP card has your last name, people will know who you are 🙂

Post # 9
4755 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

We went informal:


Please come to celebrate the marriage of FIRSTNAME & FIRSTNAME


…that’s all we wrote for names.

Post # 10
76 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

We went informal as well First Name & First Name. We are going for a casual vibe for the wedding. Our guest list isn’t huge. My thought was that if they can’t figure it out from our first names they probably don’t need to be there!

Post # 11
2049 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

We’re going informal as well and just using our first names. My family knows me by my maiden name, which I don’t use (and haven’t used in 6+ years) and professionally I’m known by my ex-husband’s last name.

I don’t want to use my maided name because no one knows it but my family, and I definitely don’t want my ex-husbands last name on my wedding invitation (yikes!) so we’re doing first names only. Also, our wedding is small and on the relaxed/casual side and we’re paying for it ourselves.

Post # 12
64 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

9 months later this post was super helpful for me! I am a graphic designer and am creating the invites myself and have created a design I love with just our first names. We are also a little older (40 & 44) and our wedding will have the same vibe as Snow00774… Elegant, yet not formal or stuffy! We too are paying for it ourselves and will only invite people we are very close too. Now thanks to these posts, my decision is easy!

Post # 13
676 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

@CPearson1016:  I only did first names on mine. I wanted to make sure I gave off the casual vibe of the affair. Plus, it was an intimate wedding (13 total) so anyone invited should have known who we were!

Post # 14
341 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Planning on doing only first names here too!


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