(Closed) Do I need to invite her/them?

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Do I need to invite her even though it was a passing comment?
    Yes : (3 votes)
    12 %
    No : (23 votes)
    88 %
    Other : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
    473 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    I don’t think you need to. It’s been so long!

    I changed jobs right after I got engaged and everyone knew I was beginning to plan. I’m only inviting 3 people from that job – but no one else…. I don’t really keep in touch with the rest of them, so why would I?

    And, I bet that if you don’t really talk now – in a year, you won’t talk at all.


    Post # 4
    256 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I would say you don’t need to invite her. If she’s not someone you keep in touch with that often than she may already have an inkling she’s not going to be invited. Plus if she did question it you could always use her pregnancy as an excuse.

    Post # 6
    329 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2009

    If it was a passing comment, nothing in writing, and you haven’t been in touch, I’d say no. She is probably not expecting it.

    Post # 7
    3162 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I agree that there is really no need to invite the person if you’re not really keeping in touch. You want people you are close with to be there. Also, opening the floodgates for other old co-workers isn’t a good idea.

    Post # 8
    584 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2009

    I say no need…. and should it happen to come up (surely she won’t bring it up, but maybe if you see her again) you could offer a casual apology and something about plans changing, and wishing you could have invited everyone.

    Post # 9
    908 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2009

    I don’t think you need to invite her and I doubt she is even expecting an invitation. 

    I’m in a bit of a similar situation.  One of our good friends dated a girl for about 2 years and she became part of our close group of friends.  They were together when we started planning and one day she asked me if she would still be invited to the wedding if they broke up.  I, of course, said yes and they broke up a few months later.  I was heartbroken about the breakup b/c I really liked her and I still wanted to invite her to the wedding but FH doesn’t want to invite her b/c it will be awkward for our friend to have her there.  I guess I see his point but I still feel REALLY bad about it.

    Post # 11
    1356 posts
    Bumble bee

    @Erin: I’m in a similar situation with my old job, but I don’t talk to anyone at my old office very much so I decided just to let it be.

    @DaisyBride: I agree with Erin. She probably doesn’t want to be around him anyway!

    Post # 12
    213 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2009

    I don’t think it’s that big of a deal.  If you were close, then each of you would have made an effort to keep in touch – and announcing a pregnancy is definitely enough to keep in touch.

    Post # 13
    5822 posts
    Bee Keeper

    LOL, I bet she doesn’t even remember that you said that!  She was pregnant and prolly busy and prolly thinking of other things (like her due date!) so I wouldn’t worry about it.

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