(Closed) Do I need to just let it go?

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
11747 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

not sure how you can be upset – she tried to get home early for it. it happens. let it go.

Post # 4
404 posts
Helper bee

The weather isn’t her fault. I’m guessing your reaction to this is more due to your relatioship with her than because of this one event? Is this “the straw that broke the camels back” so to speak?

As long as she wasn’t lying about the weather, there really isn’t anything she could’ve done. I mean, she did change her flight so she could be back in time, that’s some kinda effort there. And why shouldn’t she stay another 5 days? She’d already missed the thing she was coming back for…

(sorry if that sounded harsh, I’m sure you have plenty of reasons to be mad at her, I just don’t think this one is fair)

Post # 5
1332 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Yes, you should let it go.  You stated she helped the plan the shower, which means she probably helped pay for the shower too…then, when she realized what seems to be an honest mistake, she tried to get home for the shower.  The flight got cancelled, which was out of her control!!

I think when it comes to in-laws, especially during wedding planning, one should pick and choose their battles!  This is one of those instances where breaking a relationship need not apply! 

I am sorry you are hurt, however!

Post # 6
134 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I would let it go. She forgot at first, but rearranged her plans so that she could attend. It is not her fault that the weather forced her flight to be cancelled.

Post # 7
5475 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Aside from hopping on her broom and flying to your shower herself, I doubt there was much she could have done. 

Post # 8
338 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Best to let it go!!

Post # 10
291 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@riss519: I agree with the others here. It’s not her fault that there was a snowstorm of doom. Rather than getting angry with her, you should work on strengthening your relationship. Take her out for lunch, get tea together, etc. That will accomplish MUCH more than getting frustated with her will.

ETA: Some people just don’t enjoy planning things. I’m one of those people. Maybe she didn’t feel like she knows you well enough to help plan. It’s very generous of her to offer to chip in. Maybe she felt that would be more useful than adding another cook to stir the pot, so to speak.

Post # 11
8446 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

@riss519:  It’s still pretty generous of her to offer to help pay.  I definitely think this goes much deeper than her just missing your shower.  Hopefully the two of you will develop a better relationship as time goes on.  Best of luck!

Post # 12
3569 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Yeah let it go. She can’t control the weather. Not only that if she didn’t care she wouldn’t have planned the shower, and she wouldn’t have switched her flight so she could make it home in time. It’s just a shower.

You need to stop being petty, and be happy that you don’t have in laws all up in business.

Post # 13
9114 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Her weather control machine must’ve broken down, and I’m pretty sure her teleportation machine was in the shop at the time.

Unless she’s Zeus, she can’t control the weather. Sometimes, things beyond our control happen, and getting angry at people for it is unfair. I’m sure you’d be pretty pissed if you were late to a dinner with friends because of snowy roads and they blamed it on you.

Post # 15
1710 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World

Let it go!  Don’t hold onto things that are beyond your control.  Think happy thoughts!

Post # 16
1876 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Move on hun. Just keep reminding yourself that this woman will be grandmother to your children one day. Don’t you want them to have a good relationship? Chin up and let it go.

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