(Closed) Do I need to send a gift if I don’t attend the wedding?

posted 10 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
14490 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I think that you can get by with something little but I would make it really personal. Most of the time it is the personal gifts that I always remember anyway.

Post # 4
3482 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

I’d just send a nice card.

Post # 5
1501 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I second the nice card!

Post # 6
410 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

If you are not actually invited to the wedding you are not obligated to send a gift.

If you happen to see this person after the wedding you may want to bring a small personal gift, but that totally depends on how generous you want to be. It appears you have already been pretty generous with her though and she has not appreciated it.

Post # 7
2599 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I would just send a nice card wishing her congratulations as well under those circumstances.

Typically I would send a gift from the registry if it was me, but I think in this case a card is more than appropriate.

Good luck!

Post # 8
5278 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

I agree, a nice card will be very nice gesture!

Post # 10
5109 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2011

I also agree with the card!!

Post # 11
610 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I agree the nice card would be a nice gesture.

Post # 12
3048 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

If I don’t go to a wedding, I don’t send a wedding gift. I think it’s wrong for people to assume you should give them a present just because you’re invited. But that’s just my opinion.

Post # 14
10712 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2012

Gifts aren’t mandatory even if you would attend… in the end it’s completely up to you… personally if it were a close friend I’d send a card like PP’s said… a relative? Maybe an e-card… Anyone other than that, I wouldn’t bother.

Post # 15
2820 posts
Sugar bee

I don’t always get a gift for the people either if I don’t go to the wedding. It depends how close to them I am. I was just invited to a shower and wedding of a family friend but I literally haven’t seen this girl in at least 8 years. It was a nice invite since the rest of my family is invited but I couldn’t attend either and I just don’t feel any obligation to gift because of the invite. I did send a note along and will probably send a congrats card. Now if it was a close friend and I couldn’t go I’d probably be a bit more generous than I normally would since I’d feel bad about missing their big day. But just an acquaintance I’d probably just get something small and a card.

Post # 16
2161 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I would send a gift card, at the very least.  Even if it was for $20.

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