Post # 1
I have a set of grandparents (well, grandfather and step-grandmother) that I do not know at all, have met them maybe 4 times in 30 years. They live out of state and are not close to my family at all due to family drama with my Dad (these are his parents). I did send them a wedding invite, and had not expected them to attend. Our invites went out the first week of January and RSVP’s are due on 2/20.
Well, I’ve just learned that not only are they insisting on attending, they did not receive their invite and are extremely upset over this, and want a new invitation. I have an extra – though I wanted to keep it, do I send it to them? I don’t want to encourage attendance, but I also don’t want to be overly rude. I would also expect them to make a scene at the wedding – they are extremely religious (not that there is anything wrong with that), but they will be offended that the wedding is not in a church and that we’re not having a blessing before everyone eats (it’s a buffet).
What should I do?
Post # 3
I’m no stranger to family drama… so I sympathize the situation you are in, but I still say don’t do it. You did your part by sending the initial invitation. If it’s returned to you due to a postal error, then you can tackle that problem when you get it back (maybe the address wasn’t correct or something). Don’t send them your last keepsake invite, that’s for you!!
Post # 4
I would not send them the last invite. I agree with Wendy, that is your keepsake invite and you should keep it. I suppose that I would call them and explain the situation. I can’t imagine anyone not understading that you do not have any other invites except one to keep for yourself. Good luck girl!
Post # 5
Agree with Tonya.
Does it have to be the same invite? I am tearing apart a pack a of Martha Stewart eyelet invites that I didn’t plan on using, I could send you a couple with the envelopes or whatever if you could just print out something and send it to them…
Post # 6
Just tell them you’re very sorry the post office lost their invite, but you don’t have anymore! It would be selfish of them to expect you to order more invites just for them. Our wedding isn’t in a church either and I have some pretty religious family members coming, hopefully they have some tact and can mind their own business!
Post # 7
I am not having a church wedding either, we are geting married outside by a judge that used to work for. I am having a friend of mine who is rather religious do a reading and a prayer at the wedding. Some of my family is very religious as well, but no one has commented on my non-chruch wedding, nor do I expect them to.
Post # 8
I’d order an extra invite or two and keep it as the keepsake and invite them. if they’re going to behave and dads’ going to behave then that’s fine. So sorry Smokie you’re going thru this mess ((((SmokieP)))))
Much love to you.
Post # 9
I’m with bellenga. Order an extra couple invites for you to keep and when those come in then send them one again and tell them that you’re sorry, the post office seems to have lost the first one but you’re sending them another one.
It sounds like a horrible situation and I do sympathize but even if they decide not to come they’re sure to appreciate the effort that you’re making to send them a 2nd invitation.