Post # 1
I keep hearing stories about brides who had all or most of their centerpieces taken home by the guests, WITHOUT offering.
I’m not having a sit down dinner, but there will still be tables to sit at, and we bought lovely white Moroccan lanterns, and we’ll have seashells around them.
They are intended as gifts after the wedding, to our parents and bridal party. NOT the guests, haha. Do I really need to make an announcement like, “Please don’t take the lanterns home with you..” just seems weird!
I’m not sure if it’s customary in my area (Vancouver, CAN) so I just don’t know… I can’t believe people would do this without being told they were allowed!
Post # 3
No need to make an announcement. Put a note on the bottom of them asking that they be given to X person at the end of the night. Pass the word in advance to a few key people to stop them from being walked off with.
Post # 4
At my brothers wedding people were walking around and taking parts of their centrepieces and stockpiling them before the reception was even over! Part of the centrepiece was rented from the venue so the MC had to make an announcement and ask for everything to please be left on the table. They had intended on keeping all of the pieces, and use the rest themselves at home, but that did not happen!
I am going to get my mc to make an announcment at our wedding just to be sure.
Post # 5
As sad as it is I think that some guests need reminded. Almost all (or maybe all?) of the weddings I have been to the CP’s were given away so I think people assume they can take them. I know they assumed at my wedding that they could take them and that was not my intention. People are crazy 🙂
Post # 6
- Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo
@kay01: I think this is a good suggestion.
I’ve been to weddings with flower arrangement centerpieces where people took home flowers (not sure if they asked beforehand or not), but decorative items like lanterns or seashells, I’m not sure how people typically react to those (taking or leaving alone).
Post # 7
I would ask the DJ to make an announcement. Rather than say they are intended as gifts for others, I think you would get better compliance if you said they belong to the venue.
I live in Vancouver and have attended several events where people put “dibs” on the centerpiece as soon as they sat down at the table.
Ask some key family or friends to keep an eye out for escaping centerpieces. At a certain point later in the evening, during the dancing, you could also have a designated small group of people gather up the centerpieces to forestall the sticky fingered guests.
Post # 8
Most weddings I go to, guests are ENCOURAGED to take the centerpieces. I didn’t want mine taken though and none were stolen. I just made sure to tell the catering staff (as they’re the ones that clear the tables and break them down) that they were coming home with me.
Post # 8
We went to a wedding in December and the DJ made an announcement. It’s a little weird, but I didn’t think anything against the bride or groom, I just couldn’t imagine that the guests were already trying to take them halfway through the reception!
Post # 9
I have never been to a wedding where I assumed I could take the centerpiece. Noboyd tried to take our centerpieces, either. A few close family members asked if they could, (as we were packing up at the end of the night), which was more than fine because we didn’t need all those identical centerpieces for ourselves.
I guess it probably depends on what’s customary in your area, and the guests themselves.
Post # 10
No one tried to take ours, but it’s not normal in my area at all to take centerpieces home.
Post # 11
I didn’t make an announcement and no-one took anything that they werent offered. I don’t think centerpiece snatching is common in my neck of the woods. I hadn’t even heard of it before joining the Bee and even then I was apalled that guests would take it upon themselves to take something that wasn’t theirs. My DOC did ask if we had plans for the centerpieces so I imagine she was monitoring them at the end of the night. Our floral centerpieces went home with a few select family members who said they wanted one and the non-floral came home with us. There were no issues.
Post # 12
Most of the weddings I have been to – people are pushing the guests to take the centerpieces home with them – even if they are giant and won’t fit in your car. Typically there will be some sort of announcement made or there will be people walking around saying ‘here, take this off of our hands’. Sometimes you do feel a bit odd leaving this fancy event essentially stealing the decorations.
Our venue specifically asks if the guests are allowed to take them home or not. I can’t imagine if I rented things and then people took it – how gauche.
Post # 13
I’d never even think of taking one if it wasn’t offered. And even then . . .
Post # 14
It really depends on your guests. No one took any of my centerpieces, and most weddings I’ve been to its always the same. I only seen this happen once where a lady tried to take the entire balloon arrangement centerpiece home with her
Post # 15
I never thought in a million years people would take home our table decor – I’d never heard of it except on the Bee! People left our actual centerpieces alone, but we had these beautiful vintage skeleton keys with a tag that asked “Tell us…What is the key to marriage?” We were going to frame the responses with the keys, but several people (including a BM!) STOLE the keys! They just ripped them off the card but wrote their advice anyway. UGH!
Several PPs have left good ideas for a game plan, and you might appoint a ‘wedding hawk’ i.e. a relative who wouldn’t mind keeping an eye on them 🙂