(Closed) Do I REALLY have to handwrite my Thank You cards?!

posted 4 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Can I get away with printed thanks?
    No - never! : (203 votes)
    53 %
    Yes - because you obviously put in some effort in the rest of the card! : (177 votes)
    47 %
  • Post # 3
    937 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    @eocenia:  I think you should hand write them. Guests may not know that you DIYed the cards yourself (they are totally lovely by the way). Handwritten thank yous are just such a nice touch, and I know that I am always thrilled to receive a hand written thank you when I am a guest. 


    My hand writing is a ridiculous chicken scratch and my husband’s isn’t much better, haha! We are still hand writing our cards…my attitude is love me, love my hand writing!

    ETA: hand no longer seems like an actual word, lol!

    Post # 4
    738 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @eocenia:  what you’ve already done is so lovely and thoughtful – please don’t ruin it by sticking printed inserts in there! I would skip trying to do the ‘fancy’ handwriting and just use your regular print. It WILL look better than computer printed, I promise!

    Post # 5
    2305 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2016

    I’m really on the “it really doesn’t matter” train, when it comes to hand writting vereses typed. 

    I just don’t care. Either way, if the card is as beautiful as that, and the message is specific to me, I would be thankful for it! 

    And I know some “ettiqutte snob” is going to tell you that thank yous HAVE to be hand written, and people will be offended if they’re not, but honestly, in this day and age, I can’t see people being offended over something so silly. And if you think you’ve got some older folks who may care, hand write theirs and type the rest.

    Post # 6
    2566 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    I picked yes by accident because I thought you were asking if you should handwrite them…

    But I agree with PPs, you should hand write the message inside.  As long as it is legible I don’t think it is a big deal if your hand writing isn’t perfect.

    Post # 7
    816 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    My fiance has terrible handwriting, but I love seeing him hand write cards and thank you’s because you can see that it was from him.  You cards look great and I don’t think anyone will judge you based on your writing.  Handwritten cards are so much more genuine!

    Post # 8
    348 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I also clicked yes because I thought the question was if you should handwrite them.  So there’s another vote that should be for NO to printing the actual thank-you message.

    Post # 9
    4664 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    If I receive a thank you note, I generally do not take note of whether it is handwritten or printed.

    Post # 10
    2288 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: Central Park

    Yout don’t have to do fancy calligraphy (but I think it looks beautiful!) but yes you do need to hand write them.

    Post # 11
    2055 posts
    Buzzing bee

    @eocenia:  I don’t think you have to. I think it’s a lovely, heartfelt touch, but I have never cared whether a thank you card/note I received was handwritten or not.

    I personally handwrite my thank you notes, but it’s not for pretentious reasons…I use them to stay on top of my calligraphy and script skills. 😀

    @FauxPas2012:  “It shouldn’t be a uniform message to all.” <– +1 Now that would be lazy (printed or handwritten).

    Post # 12
    3596 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: January 2000

    @eocenia:  double post see below.

    Post # 13
    3596 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: January 2000

    @eocenia:  It shouldn’t be a uniform message to all.

    But if you want to print them from the computer, that would be fine with me as a recipient. Then sign them with your hand.

    You could use one generic paragraph or two, which is what many people do when writing thank you notes, something like:


    I was so happy to see you at our wedding! I appreciate you being there, it was lovely to see you.

    [insert non-generic message here such as “Thank you for the toaster we love it…”]

    We had a great time at our wedding reception seeing family and friends. The love and support of everyone provided a wonderful start for our new married life. Thanks again!




    Post # 15
    547 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    @pixiecat:  I agree and I also voted wrong.

    OP, I think you should hand write–nobody is going to get it and think “OMG her handwriting is atrocious!”

    Post # 16
    1691 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    @LilacViolet:  whenever I write or type or say a word several times, I feel the same way! Like it’s not right anymore or something LOL

    I think thank you cards should be handwritten.  If someone came and celebrated your marriage and spent their day with you, AND got a gift, the least you can do is write it out with a pen. That’s just my opinion.

    It doesn’t need to be handwriting, you can just print it – that may look neater if your handwriting is choppy/messy.  I had my husband write most of them, I just told him what to say.  His writing is beautiful.


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