Post # 1
Hi everyone, I could really use some input. I adore my engagement ring, but it’s making the whole wedding band buying situation a bit difficult. It’s a very low set 1.23 carat solitaire which is kinda asymmetric in the way it’s set. My FI had it custom designed for me and I wouldn’t change it for the world but it means that if I get a wedding band it needs to be custom made. Which drives up the price and means that the wedding band will look weird on its own. Plus if they spin I’ll have to get them soldered together.
I realised when FI and I were looking at bands, that I was trying to find something as unobtrusive as possible so as not to disturb the look of my ering. Anything with bling looked all wrong, and what I really love about my ring is how simple, delicate and elegant it is, as well as the unique setting. And I realised that I think my ring looks much better on its own, anything else added makes it less beautiful. So I thought I’d go without a wedding band and just use my ering for that purpose. And maybe put the money saved (at least $750) towards the honeymoon.
This is my ering.
Post # 2
I don’t think you NEED a wedding ring if you don’t necessairily want one. Have you and your fiance discussed it? I don’t think there’s anything wrong with it and saving up for a year then getting it on your one-year anniversary! It’ll give you something else to look forward to.
Post # 3
I have a simular situation with my e-ring, because of the stone size and how high it sites ( it’s a classic 4 prong tiffany style setting) I am also having trouble finding a complimentary band. I don’t think you NEED a wedding band, you FI gave you your engagement as a token as his love, so why not wear that. Also, I am a huge fan of plain, classic wedding bands, maybe get something very plain for now to wear to symbolize the marriage and splurge when you guys have the money to buy something really nice.
Post # 4
Have you tried it with a plain straight band instead of a contoured band? I have a swirly shaped engagement ring, and I think it looks best with a mismatched gap.
You definitely don’t have to have two bands if you don’t want to though.
Post # 5
I didn’t get a new ring as a wedding band. My ring is a combined fmaily heirloom. The center stone is from my great-grandmother’s e-ring and the setting is from my husband’s grandmother’s e-ring. My husband had them combined into the ring that he gave me when he proposed. I wore it throughout the engagement and put it out for the ring warming after the rehearsal. Then my husband gave it back to me during the wedding ceremony and I now wear it as my wedding band. I love wearing a single ring! I have always thought that most e-ring/wedding band combos end up looking unbalanced so I prefer the look of a single ring. Plus mine has lovely detail on the side of the ring that I don’t want to cover up. Given that yours is asymmetric, I can’t definitely understand wanting to wear it on it’s own. The only downside is that people warned me that people will ask when I’m getting married after the wedding. I don’t see that as a big deal and it hasn’t happened yet (I’ve been married 6 months). So I’m really really happy with my decision!
Post # 6
Do what you want. I would get a simple band, or even a band you love and wear them seperately on days you want to be a little less dressy.
Post # 7
What about a simple “twisted” metal band? I’ve seen it with some rose gold sets on these boards and it might be simple and complimentary enough to your e-ring.
Post # 8
Thanks for the advice. I’m definitely leaning towards not bothering with a band. I tried a straight band with it and i didn’t like it. Im pretty comfortable with wearing my ering and I don’t feel the need to wear anything else at the moment. Price isn’t a huge issue at present, if I found something I loved I wouldn’t let the price (within reason of course) hold me back. But I don’t really see the point of spending money on something I don’t really care for.
Post # 9
You defintely don’t “need” a wedding band if you don’t want to wear one. However, what I would do in your position would be to have the jeweler who made the ring custom make a band like this to fit your ring:
Post # 10
aliciaspinnet: I think you can do whatever you want! But I will say my first ring (1st marriage) I only had an engagement ring and that was fine by me. Then people would ask me when my wedding was because they assumed I was only engaged. For some reason that bothered me so I got a simple plain band to go with it.
Post # 11
aliciaspinnet: Of course you don’t need one. It’s just a piece of jewelry. I actually really dislike the look of most wedding bands because the 2 rings together almost always look asymmetrical and that bugs the hell out of me for reasons I can’t explain. Personally I think using an engagement as a wedding ring is preferable to having two rings.
Post # 12
I have a similar style ring, and I’m moving my engagement ring to my right hand and wearing a wedding band on its own on my left, so that’s another option. Of course you dont need a separate ring, so do whatever makes most sense for you.
Post # 13
I am debating the same thing. My e-ring band is wider than most and covered in small diamonds. I feel a band would take away from it and also make it look clunky and chunky, ha. I think your ring would look beautiful on its own and would look out of place if you wore it like lindyhop15 suggested (mine would look terrible with that suggestion).
Some will try and tell you that you aren’t really married if you don’t purchase a band, but I don’t buy into that. A ring doesn’t make the commitment real or make it more meaningful its just a nice sentiment. Its the relationship that truly matters. I’ve included a pic of my ring just to show you how wide it is.
Post # 14
aliciaspinnet: you don’t NEED a wedding band. Wearing a band doesn’t make you any more married than someone who doesn’t wear any rings. But there maybe a few people who assumed you are not married yet if you are only wearing your ERing
Post # 15
You don’t need a band. It really is all up to you. But, for me, I would have a thin band custom made that matches it. I like the two bands on my finger. But, honestly, it only matters how you feel with your ring, not anyone else.