Post # 1
May 2015 we are having a small intimate wedding in a church followed by dinner. Approximately 25 guests including ourselves and the officiant and his wife.
We’re not doing a lot of the traditional stuff like engagement pictures or bridal showers and we’re not having a bridal party.
Can I skip Save The Dates or are these necessary? Everyone already knows by word of mouth what the date is. They’ll recieve a regular invitation.
The only one I was worried about was FI’s mother, she’s a nurse and I know they usually need to ask for time off way in advance. She has already requested the day off so we’re good there.
I’m just worried that if I skip Save The Dates people will feel like they didn’t have enough notice or something. What do you think?
Post # 2
I didn’t do them for my small wedding. I just told everyone when it would be.
Post # 3
I don’t think it’s necessary! I’m just doing them because I want an excuse to both take engagement photos and use them for something. We’re having about 100 people though. Your guest count is intimate enough that you should be just fine without them.
Post # 4
Unless your wedding involves a lot of travel, I don’t think you need the save the dates.
Post # 5
- Wedding: June 2014 - San Francisco, CA
I would suggest mentioning it in advance, if possible, but for a small intimate wedding of very-close people I don’t think they’re necessary.
Post # 6
Agreed with PPs! Not necessary.
Post # 7
ButterflyButterfly: Just travel by us 🙂 we’re getting married in our home state and everyone we are inviting knows where the place is.
Post # 8
Thanks ladies! You’ve helped ease my mind 🙂
I’ve been worried that I’ll be making some major faux pas lol
Post # 9
playdohpants: You don’t need them. I have more people on my list and we skipped them as most people are local. We emailed anyone who was away to let them know the date.
Post # 10
Are most people local? I’m doing them because we have tons of people who will need to book flights, and a few booking international flights. We want to give them something official wit the date so they can start hunting down the cheapest fares. If your guests are local, I don’t see the need to do them for such a small wedding.<br />
Post # 11
TGold: They’re all reasonably local. Within a 1 hour drive or less. (An hour isn’t really a big deal in a large state lol)
His Dad will have the furthest drive, 1 hour to the church but the restaurant is in the direction towards his house so he’ll be closer to home after dinner.
Post # 12
playdohpants: Honestly I never heard of them until I joined bee and we never did them. I thought they were a waste of money personally
Post # 13
- Wedding: July 2014 - The Meeting House/DoubleTree by Hilton
playdohpants: We did save the dates because we have a lot of out of town guests who needed to know how much to budget for travel (plane, hotel, etc).Since everyone for your wedding is within an hour or so and they know the date already, I don’t think you need to send them out.
Post # 14
Definitely not necessary! I don’t see any problem with you skipping them.
Post # 15
- Wedding: June 2014 - DD born 2015 DS born 2017
I thought people only sent them for international/cross-country guests who need to book a hotel or make big travel plans.