(Closed) Do I really want this wedding?

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
2116 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Take a deep breath and a step back from planning for now. You shouldn’t be planning if you’re upset. Are you close with your mom or do you have any sisters you can talk to about this? Maybe they’ll be willing to help or have some alternative ideas that will be okay with you.


Here are some questions to consider:

-Will you regret not having a wedding?

-Are you having a wedding for you or for your family?

-Is postponing the wedding a viable option?

-Would a small wedding be a good alternative for you?

Post # 4
2829 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2011


Are we the same people?

My partner & I have been together for nearly 7 years, and bought a house together at the end of ’09.

While my family hasn’t gone so far as to cancel any reunions or previous plans in lieu of our nuptials, I know what you mean about feeling like all you want to do is sign the papers and have it done so you’ll officially be family.

I’ve dealt with depression for years and it can be very difficult this time of year (seasonal affective disorder), making things seem worse off than they really are. if you want to PM me to talk, please feel free.

Post # 5
7403 posts
Busy Beekeeper

Depression is very real and I urge you to take care of yourself first and foremost. A wedding is for one day (+planning) your mental health is a lifetime. Prioritize. Good luck <<cyber hug>>

Post # 6
2053 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Hugs! I’m sorry you are feeling so pressured and obligated. It is good that you’re writing about it and getting it out of your system. I hope you can discuss your feelings further with a close loved one. Then, definitely give yourself a break from planning. You owe it to yourself to recharge and relax, so whatever that is for you, do it. Allow yourself the time to honor what you are feeling and release the tension inside. Those nagging feelings of obligation, work drama, all of that noise will quiet. Afterwards, you’ll be all the stronger, have more clarity, and be all the more ready to do what is best for you. Be kind to yourself and best wishes.

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