Post # 1
I am completely torn on the china thing. My fiance thinks it’s stupid and we will never use it and I think, for the time being, he’s right. That being said, I love to entertain and could see having Christmas, Thanksgiving, etc at our house. When I’m slightly more established, will I regret not having that china? I can’t decide.
Are you registering for china? Have you been married awhile and used your china? Any regrets out there?
Post # 3
@NDfan2009: Yes, I registered for china. But, I’ve always known that I wanted it. I don’t have a lot of use for it right now, but I anticipate that I’ll entertain more in the future. I also dont expect that I’ll receive all of it, but I’ll buy the rest of it over time. So, I guess the decision you’re faced with is: 1) do you think you will want/use it in the future? 2) would you spend money to complete the set if you dont receive the pieces you register for? If the answers are yes, then go for it!
Post # 4
We registered for china…on accident. We inherited a beautiful set from my grandmother that we’ve yet to really use and given that and the fact that china is so freaking expensive we chose not to register for it. So we did register for a set of nice dishes so that we’d have a matching set. My parents recently bought it for us and after looking at the back of the dishes we realized that they were china. 🙂 Just more durable, daily use, cheaper china. Not the type you put in a special cabinet and break out just for holidays.
We use the durable stuff daily for everything. We’ve yet to break out the fine china in full and we’ve really only used the cups for espresso. No regrets but the nice stuff does take up a lot of space and isn’t touhed too often.
Post # 5
Pretty sure that I will be registering for it. Mostly because I do see us one day hosting big holiday events or entertaining. I grew up with my mom breaking out the fine china for christmas, easter, company coming over and just always revealed in the fact that she brought out the fancy plates. She still uses her dishes over 40 years later for special times and I hope I can get a set and pass them onto my children, grandchildren.
Post # 6
We would have registered for it if my grandmother hadn’t given us her set. We have to buy the serving items because she never owned those, so we will purchase those ourselves. I think that just because I’m not entertaining now doesn’t mean I shouldn’t accept it. We hope to host Thanksgiving ect. in 5-10 years. I feel like when you get married is the one time when its appropriate to ask for gifts like china because a large number of guests can purchase parts of it. Later its just too big of a gift to ask for. Unless you don’t plan on ever using it, I would register for it. If you’re worried about not getting things you want more, wait to add it to the registry until after the more important items have been purchased.
Post # 7
I didn’t register for china. We wouldn’t use it. I did however register for beautiful plates that were not china (so much less expensive!). They are gorgeous, and if I were to entertain, I would love to use them. I think it is just a personal preference.
Post # 8
Register for it. It doesn’t hurt to register for something, IMO. If someone can get it for you, great. You won’t use it for the first few years probably, but eventually you will want to, I feel. I feel like men don’t understand the importance of fine china. If you don’t get it, oh well. If you do, great. And if you get it instead of stuff that you would have preferred, then just exchange it!
Post # 9
If you think you’ll use it, even 5-10 years down the road, register for it, in my opinion. When you get to the point where you wish you had it, you’ll have a hard time justifying the expenditure to go buy it then. That’s actually the reason we went ahead and registered for crystal glasses (we’re inheriting china, or I would register for that too)- my mother explained to me how much she regrets not registering for crystal for those same reasons.
Post # 10
We didn’t because my mom and my grandma both have sets that we’d inherit, and I don’t have the space to store china, nor do I want to buy a china hutch. Plus, I just don’t think that the folks on our guest list would be excited about purchasing china place settings- one of my friends texted me the other day to ask what we really wanted because everything in our registry is “boring house stuff” 🙂
Post # 11
We registered for it. We like to entertain, and both of us grew up in families that used it. Our house is small, but we plan on moving in the next ~3 years, and we know that china is something we will want down the road.
Post # 12
If you can honestly see yourself using it, then yes. We aren’t because we’ll never use it. My grandma has some that NEVER gets used; I can’t remember any family gathering that we’ve had on mine or FI’s side where we’ve even used actual plates. Normally it’s just paper or plastic.
Post # 13
who really uses china now and days? We didnt register for it, think its kind of a waste and there is alot more other things we would want, like one full set of nice everyday dishware, we dont need two different sents of dishes. We really needed 1 nice everyday set. Plus my mom also has a set that I love, it was my grandmothers and will get passed down eventually
Post # 14
Consider these factors:
- Space in your home. Do you have enough storage or a place to safely store your china?
- Your lifestyle and entertaining. Will you use it frequently, or do you think you’ll be bothered to use it only a few times a year?
- Its future. Do you think it will actually be something to hand down through generations in your family, and is this important to you?
Another option is to register for semi-formal, everyday porcelain dinnerware. It’s not as ‘fine’ as china, but sturdy enough for everyday use and still comes in luxurious patterns (and with plenty of matching accessories).
That said, we did not register for china because we were already handed down a massive set. I entertain often enough (on weekends and major holidays) that china will be used frequently in our household, but we opted to register for upgraded semi-formal dinnerware. It’s perfect for when we have company but the setting isn’t formal enough to call for our china, but still requires something nicer than everyday dishes.
Post # 15
I wasn’t planning on registering for it because I did inherit a set from my grandmother, but we wound up registering for it any way because it was one of the only set of dishes Darling Husband and I both liked!
We didn’t get any china for showers, and up until the wedding I wasn’t planning on keeping any pieces we got. But then for the wedding we got 4 place settings, and it was so beautiful, we decided to keep it once we realized we could only return for store credit. I am happy we did so far, and am super excited because I was able to get the rest of our place settings for 45% off the normal price!
Post # 16
We registered for it and recieved almost all of the pieces! We have had it for less than 6 months and I have already used it 4 times. If I cook a nice meal or just want to make a night more special, I serve dinner on it. I plan to use it more this year as well. I want to have a few parties with friends and definitely a small christmas dinner with family. I think that if you think that you will ever want it, then register for it for your wedding. There will be no other time when there will be so many people shopping for you. Also, what would you rather buy down the road… a $40 toaster or $800+ for china. You will never buy it for yourself, so you might as well let others buy it for you. As for storing it. They sell canvas storage kits to safely store it and it doesn’t take up much room. Another thing to consider if you are inheriting china… It doesn’t hurt to have more than one set of china. My Mother-In-Law has 3 sets! She will be giving a set to my Brother-In-Law and his wife (they married first) and they will be giving us a set as well…. then they will have one of their own. I see china as something that I can pass down and keep in the family, so if I am planning to have more than one child, then I would want more than one set to pass down 🙂