- 8 years ago
- Wedding: March 2011
So, my husband (I love that word) and I had our first wedding on Friday. Since we will have a religious one the next year, I just wanted everything chill this time. It was small, intimate and I wanted everyone to be totally relaxed. There was a barbecue after and afterwards we would be leaving off to our hotel. I wanted everyone to have fun BUT it didn’t appear that one person did and in a way, it did kind of annoyed me on that day.
My dad’s girlfriend went to the wedding, they have been dating for a year and she is considerably younger than him. I really don’t care about that, but her attitude is really pissing me off. When I go to his place to visit, she is ok BUT whenever there is an event, she seems to act really pissy. During my birthday last year, my dad, his girlfriend, my fiance and I went out. The whole time she complained, laughed at everything everyone said (even not funny) and wanted to leave early, despite my dad wanting to spend time with me. Of course, I didn’t want to be “It’s all about me..It’s my birthday” so I told him it was ok to go. I mean, she was tired and I understood. So, I never noticed her attitude but my fiance thought she was out of line because apparently to him, she was whining a lot.
When our parents met, she went and pouted the whole time. Still..I ignored it, even when she was snobby to my other relatives who tried to talk to her but she froze them out.
So, the morning of the wedding comes up and my dad arrives to the hotel. I was kind of stressed out because well..it was the morning of the wedding and we were a bit late but I was cordial and offered her coffee. She kind of pushes me out of the way of the mirror but I just shrugged it off. She was complaining about her shoes (whatever) and whenever my dad was going to talk to me, she interupted him. It was kind of awkward.
During the barbecue, she kept insisting on leaving. She had work that night and the whole afternoon she kept bringing up that she had work that day. I told my dad to just let her go and that my aunt would give take him home but nope. So, even though my dad was trying to relax, she kept giving him crazy looks and mentions. This would happen whenever he went to talk to my brother and I. I still just ignored it. At this point I wanted to tell her to calm down. I know this sounds bitchy but she wasn’t really needed there. She wasn’t an integral part of that day nor is she even related to me in any way, if she left I wouldn’t have really cared. I mean, I know my dad wanted to stay around with the family at the barbecue but he had to leave.
Now, this time I am kind of ignoring her but I found out from my husband that his parents (who are the kindest people) went to talk to her before the ceremony, just small talk and to ask her how she was. I guess she was rude to them because they wouldn’t talk to her after that. Even during the barbecue, his mother tried to talk to her but she gave short answers and contiued to pout. I thought that this was maybe she was stressed out about being late to work but..this was early on in the party.
My mom even mentioned to me later that this girl has got to go. I don’t want to cause drama but her attitude is pissing me off. I have the second wedding to plan now and I want everyone to have a good time, my dad wants to be a part of the planning but how can I tell him his girlfriend is pissing me off? I have tried being cordial to her, even inviting her to tea. I am not annoyed by her being rude to me, I mean whatever about that, but I am upset that she is rude to my in-laws, that is crossing the line.