(Closed) Do I send a gift to a wedding I’m not invited to?

posted 9 years ago in Gifts and Registries
Post # 3
330 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2008

Why not? I received wedding gifts from friends and family that weren’t invited to the wedding. It’s a sweet gesture and lets the couple know that you are supporting them and sending your love even if you’re not invited. Send them a small gift to say congrats! But consider sending the gift close to the wedding date so that they don’t think you’re fishing for an invitation.

Post # 4
337 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I would say only if you wanted to. If they don’t send an invite, you aren’t required to, but it would be nice!

Post # 5
1718 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2008 - Winery in the Gold Country

You’re totally not obligated to in any way whatsoever. If you feel like it, send one! I wouldn’t feel bad if I didn’t send one… you could send a card if you wanted.

Post # 6
699 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

Don’t feel like you have to but it seems that you want to, and I think they would be thankful. I do agree with scrapsoflife though. Make sure it is clear you are not fishing for an invite!

Post # 7
1205 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

That’s a really nice gesture. Depending on the couple, you might try to keep it small. I know I’m having a small wedding and would probably get a little uncomfortable if someone who wasn’t invited bought us a gift. I would worry that I should have just invited them in the first place. However, I also tend to overthink things. I think a gift would be wonderful if you want to give one. 🙂

Post # 8
7081 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2009

It would be very sweet of you, but I think you are perfectly free not to if so inclined.  You’re very thoughtful!

Post # 9
2470 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

It is always okay to give gifts (for the most part). I say go for it. I don’t think it will appear that you are looking for an invite, but I would suggest sending it on or close to the wedding date.

Post # 10
49 posts
  • Wedding: October 2009

I agree with everyone else that you aren’t required to since you didn’t get an invite but it would be a nice gesture. However are you sending them a gift b/c you are inviting them to your wedding and would like a gift from them in return?

Post # 11
409 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

That would be really nice of you.  Since they are having a small wedding they might also have a need for the gift (or maybe not).  Maybe just a card congratulating them or something small.

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