Post # 1
I am having a Destination Wedding in October, I already sent out my save the dates to about 20 families. I sent them to the VIP’s and the people who I knew would want to come. I was planning on sending out invites to more people than I sent the STD to. Mostly to be courteous. So my question is, do I need to send an RSVP? If they are coming to the Destination Wedding they need to book with my travel agent, not send me a RSVP card back right?
The second thing is, my mother said that I need to send a STD to everyone that I’m sending an invite to. Is that true? I guess I need to know if I should order more STD now and hurry up and send them to everyone else.
Post # 3
I am also having a Destination Wedding & I sent STD’s to everyone I am sending an invite to. We are also having guests RSVP.
Post # 4
You don’t need to send more STD’s, an invite is enough for those you didn’t already send one too. But you do need to send RSVP’s- its good to have a backup, you will want to know who’s coming, and some guests may book with a different travel agent.
Post # 5
I sent Save-The-Date Cards to everyone I invited. I also did invites with RSVPs. Looking back, since we had a small number of guests, I think I probably could haved saved money on the invites and just done an announcement instead.
Post # 6
I believe OP is asking if she needs to include RSVP cards into the invites, not send more Save-The-Date Cards.
It is always good to include a paper RSVP card. Not everyone uses email, and calling you/the travel agent could get confusing. Have the info for the travel agent readily available on the invitation, but include a response card so YOU know who will be coming.
Post # 7
@BooRadley: I guess your right about possibly booking with another travel agent. I was trying to save some $ and didn’t really want to have to waste all the stamps for and RSVP.
Ok next question….. Should the RSVP’s be worded just as they would if I wasn’t having a DW? You know, accepts or declines? I would be mainly getting declines back.
My mom is so old school/traditional in every way except her paying for the wedding. Me and Fiance are paying for the whole thing but we have to do things HER way. I’m trying really hard to avoid all fights with her about it. I am the first of her 3 daughters to get married.
Post # 8
@newloves1975: we’re having a Destination Wedding and the RSVP wording isn’t different because of it. To be honest, I’m not sure why having a Destination Wedding would change the RSVP card at all?
Post # 9
@bythebook: Hey! We are date twins!
I don’t know what I was thinking, or why I thought it would be different.
Post # 10
@newloves1975: I noticed that too! Clearly, we both have exceptionally good taste 😉
Post # 11
1) Do I send an RSVP?
I would. People sometimes like to write nice little notes on them, you may want to keep the for the future. Also, unless your travel agent has some kind of exclusive deal with the location, people may choose to make alternative arrangements to attend.
2) Sending an STD to all that are invited.
You are correct. It isn’t mandatory to send them to ALL guests. I think what you are doing is the smartest. You sent to your VIP’s and people you can’t get married without. The rest of your guests will still get invites.
In fact, what you are doing is probably better then sending to everyone, and then having to post that you now don’t want to invite XXXXXXXX, because you don’t want them to come anymore.
Post # 12
I’m with pretty much everyone on here that you should send the RSVPs. The big reason why is because you will be surprised with who chooses to attend. I don’t think I’ve ever heard of a bride who guessed to 100% accuracy who would decline and accept. There is always a surprise.
As someone else mentioned, it is very likely that people will at least look at using someone other than your travel agent. I’m not a fan since so many try to steer towards vacations that really aren’t “us.” Plus, you never know who has access to frequent flyer miles, hotel points, or a time share trade that can be redeemed without needing to contact your travel agent.
The wording should be the same as it is for a local wedding. Some brides add more items, such as asking what hotel people plan to use and their arrival date (especially relevant if you plan to do welcome bags at their check-in).
If you’re trying to keep the stationary budget down, then I think you did the right thing on Save-The-Date Cards. You don’t have to send a STD to everyone invited, but you are supposed to send an invitation to everyone who received a STD. You’re covered there.
Another thought for getting your stationary cost down with RSVPs would be to consider postcards. Here was a really cute suite that included a boarding pass themed postcard RSVP. Here is a similar theme that might inspire you from Etsy.
Post # 13
I am having a Destination Wedding and sent Invites with RSVP cards to all.
Also, I agree with other posters who have said that you guests may not choose to use your travel agent. It’s a nice option for them, but some will want to book the trip on their own.