Post # 1
I got married on a cruise ship on October 8th, 2010 and per cruise ship policy you can’t bring gifts on the ship or you would have to pay a tax on the gifts. I had 50 people at my wedding and haven’t received gifts from about 7 people. Do I still send them thank you cards for coming to the wedding? Or do I wait and see if they still send gifts? I think according to etiquette rules you have a year to give a gift for a wedding right? I had prints printed out of a picture that was taken of the whole group at the end of the wedding that I was going to include in the cards. Should I just send them a card saying thanks for coming and include the picture? HELP!!!
Post # 3
if people traveled to your wedding, i would send a card, especially since you have a picture of everyone!
even though they didn’t bring a gift, they spent money going to your wedding. if they happen to send a gift later, it wouldn’t hurt to send another thank you!
Post # 4
I would send them a thank you. For a Destination Wedding a lot of people don’t bring gifts because they already spent a lot on your wedding. And since they did that I think you should send them all a thank you for making the effort to come to your wedding.
Post # 5
Yes. They still took the time to share in your special day, so absolutely!
Post # 6
@CruiseWedding2010: etiquette says you shouldn’t even expect gifts. You should send a thank you to them to let them know you appreciate them being there.
Post # 8
Send a thank you for sharing in our special day generic card. Then if you get gifts send something more personal after.
Post # 9
They aren’t required, but we did! Especially because 80% of our guest list was out of town, and they spent a bundle to get there – in that case, their presence really was a gift to us!!
Post # 10
I agree with others, I think you should thank them for coming out and sharing your day with you. And if they send a gift later, you should write another one.
Post # 11
It’s not required. The reception/favour is thank you enough for just attending the wedding.
But, I sent them to everybody too. Heck, I even sent them to some people we invited that didn’t come or bring a gift, just because I thought they might like to see the picture of us on the front.
I think especially for a destination wedding, it’s a nice gesture.
Post # 12
It wasn’t a destination wedding we got married in port before the ship left for the cruise. Only 1 of the people that didn’t give us a gift actually traveled from San Francisco to San Diego and she didn’t go on the cruise. I don’t expect gifts, I actually told people that I would rather they go on the cruise than give me a gift. I just didn’t know if it would be tacky to send a thank you for attending card to people who didn’t send gifts. I don’t want them to think I am sending a card hinting for them to send me a gift. Thanks for the advice 🙂