(Closed) Do I send thank you cards to people who went to my wedding but didn’t give gifts

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
4137 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

if people traveled to your wedding, i would send a card, especially since you have a picture of everyone!

even though they didn’t bring a gift, they spent money going to your wedding. if they happen to send a gift later, it wouldn’t hurt to send another thank you!

Post # 4
202 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I would send them a thank you. For a Destination Wedding a lot of people don’t bring gifts because they already spent a lot on your wedding. And since they did that I think you should send them all a thank you for making the effort to come to your wedding.

Post # 5
426 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

Yes. They still took the time to share in your special day, so absolutely!

Post # 6
7300 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@CruiseWedding2010: etiquette says you shouldn’t even expect gifts. You should send a thank you to them to let them know you appreciate them being there.

Post # 7
91 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I agree with Kitzy

Post # 8
7587 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

Send a thank you for sharing in our special day generic card. Then if you get gifts send something more personal after.

Post # 9
10366 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

They aren’t required, but we did! Especially because 80% of our guest list was out of town, and they spent a bundle to get there – in that case, their presence really was a gift to us!!

Post # 10
194 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I agree with others, I think you should thank them for coming out and sharing your day with you.  And if they send a gift later, you should write another one.

 Good luck!

Post # 11
9053 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

It’s not required.  The reception/favour is thank you enough for just attending the wedding.

But, I sent them to everybody too.  Heck, I even sent them to some people we invited that didn’t come or bring a gift, just because I thought they might like to see the picture of us on the front. 

I think especially for a destination wedding, it’s a nice gesture.

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