Post # 1
So… my best friend and I were looking at rings for fun and found one that she absolutely loves. It’s her dream ring. BUT she doesn’t want to show it to her man because she thinks (hopes?) that he might have a ring already and doesn’t want him to freak out (which is a legitimate concern).
Should I show the ring to him? Maybe only if I nose around and make sure he hasn’t gotten a ring yet? (I don’t think he has the ring yet.) Or should I stop being so NOSY and just let it be? I know my BFF wants to be engaged more than she wants the ring of her dreams, but I really want her to have it!!! You should have seen her face when she saw it… she LOVES it.
Post # 3
Are you close enough to him that you know if he’d appreciate input/advice? Do you know enough about their finances – could he afford that ring?
Post # 4
If it were me, I’d probably ask straight up if he had the ring. If he does, just forget the ring that she loved – she can deal with it later.
If he doesn’t have the ring, I think the smart thing to do would be to offer your help. Say you went browsing with her, and you know exactly what she would love.
Post # 5
Ask him. Tell him that his girlfriend showed you a ring that she’s in love with, and ask him if he’d like you to show it to him or not. Be sure to mention that your friend thinks she will be thrilled by whatever ring he gives her, if he already has one picked out.
Post # 6
personally i wouldnt meddle, sometimes tryin to help ends up causing more problems
Post # 7
I’d say talk to him. Fiance had designed a ring for me, bought the diamonds, was about to have it made, when I was talking to a girlfriend and told her I wanted something the exact opposite of what he had designed. She told him what I had said and he was SO happy. He had to redesign and buy new stones, but I think we’re both really happy that I ended up with a ring I wanted!
Post # 8
I agree, talk to him to see if he has something in mind, if not then you can show him what she likes just so he konws. I’m sure they both would appreciate, BUT don’t tell her anything about it!!!!!!
Post # 9
I’d say ask him if he wants your advice, and explain that she happened to point out a ring she really likes when she was hanging out with you. Let HIM tell you if he wants to hear it or not, that way you can get it off your conscience.
Post # 10
Thanks for all the advice, ladies! I ended up doing what most you suggested and casually told him if he wanted input on a ring, I’d be available/happy to help. I didn’t even get to the part about how she and I had been looking at rings together and she pointed out some she liked, because he quickly stopped me and said that he’d keep that in mind for the time came, but that he’s not even in the market yet… eek. Good thing I didn’t spill that my BFF is DEFINITELY “in the market”!
I guess the good side of that is that I hope he’ll probably come get an opinion from me when he is ready to get a ring, and my BFF will get the ring of her dreams 🙂