- 2 years ago
- Wedding: May 2017
You said you know your worth Bee. So, it’s time to walk.
Show your child that you are a strong and confident mama bear who doesn’t need a man to hold her back in life.
Good luck in whatever you decide, Bee.
You’ll be surprised once you’ve done it how much better you will feel. To liken @ladyjane123 it is ike ripping off a bandaid. You need to look out for yourself and your child – as I am sure you are aware as a mother, children will pick up on disheartened, unsettled relationships and this can cause them problems in the future. It’s not going to be a nice environment for yourself or your child. He clearly doesn’t want to even try to fix it, which for me shows when times get tough he won’t be there for you and probably not your daughter either. You deserve to be with someone who will love and adore you for you 24:7, not just go through fits and starts of being in the mood to do so.
Sounds to me like he is only in this relationship because he feels obligated to be. That is not a good foundation for a relationship, let alone a marriage.
Contrary to popular belief, you do not have to be married or in a relationship with the other parent of your child in order to successfully co-parent and raise a healthy, happy child. In fact, if your relationship isn’t making the two of you happy, your kid will pick up on that and they’ll grow up believing that going through the motions is normal, instead of believing that they deserve to find a partner who makes them happy.
Do yourselves and your kid a favour – break up, do it amicably, and commit to being respectful and supportive co-parents who are free to pursue relationships that will be more fulfilling to you in the end.
If you’re asking this question, it means you shouldn’t get married (at least at this point in time). Marriage is already so difficult, you should be sure this is what you really want and need to be confident in your decision before you sign the contract and legally bind yourself to your spouse.
If he already admitted that he’s not in love with you then you have your answer. You deserve to be with someone who is crazy about you. Don’t waste your time here, this relationship is over.
Bee, thank God nothing happened like a big, expensive wedding!
Just take another break from him. I understand that because of your daughter you wouldn’t want to cut ties with him or make bad blood. So best thing in my opinion is to tell him you want to take another ‘break’. This doesn’t come off as too permanent.
Then keep that break going as long as you need to feel like you can trust him or maybe until you feel like you can simply move on or move away from him, daughter and all.