Post # 1
A little after we sent out the save the dates we heard from a guest on her facebook who said her soon to be born daughter might be a guest at our wedding. Our wedding is in April and the baby is due in March. I told her I was sorry but we already told other couples and family members no kids. So she told us she was sorry she couldnt make it to the wedding because she would be nursing and needs to be with the baby, plus they have her best friends wedding later that night, to which they can bring the baby. So…do I still invite her to the bridal shower? Plus the bridal shower is in March which she prob wont make it to since she will be having the baby…C section. So is it ok not to invite her to the bridal shower since we know they cant make it to the wedding? Help Hive
Post # 3
Even though you know she can’t make it, I would still invite her just to be nice and let her know you wanted her to be there. I would leave it up to her to say, she can’t make it because of the baby. And because she can’t make it to the wedding, she may really want to go to the shower. Just to save any possible drama, I’d invite her.
Post # 4
I agree with mimosa – you should still invite her to things… It’s up to her to decide if she can come, but I, personally, would appreciate the invitation.
Post # 5
I have to agree w/ mimosa & aplusb – if you don’t invite her now, she might think you aren’t inviting her because of the baby. You can always include a small note in her invite saying “I know you mentioned you may not be able to make it, but if you can, we’d love to see you there.”
Post # 6
Yeah I was def in the middle of this…but I think you ladies are right. Plus we know her parents and her mom is invited to the shower…so I think we will still invite her. THanks ladies.
Post # 7
Just wanted to chime in to say yes, def. still invite her! You never know maybe she will use this wedding as a “night out” after all!
Post # 8
I agree with everyone above. At least then if she doesn’t come, it’s on her terms, not because of your choice.
Post # 9
Yep still invite her. I have friends who aren’t coming to the wedding because the nephew/cousin is getting married that same night out of state. So I’m inviting them to the shower so that they can at least be apart of some of the wedding activities.
Post # 10
good advice bees….total agreement
Post # 11
I was just like you… “no kids”. Well… then we found out that 4 of FI’s cousins, my sister in law, and my best friend/MOH will all have infants (ie, 8 months and under, most brand new little babies) at the time of our wedding.
I am still not allowing “kids” but I am caving and allowing the new mommies to bring their infants. It was the only way that I could do it without alienating my SIL, Maid/Matron of Honor, and half my future family. I’ve heard that all they do when they’re that small is sleep anyway.
Not saying that you have to change your mind, because of course it is your choice, but if it’s just the one little baby then maybe you could let her bring the baby?
Either way, I think you should definitely still invite her as a courtesy to all the things you were going to invite her to before you heard the news about her baby.
Post # 12
Proper etiquette is to send the invitation, that way she knows that she is still invited if she can change her arrangements, and it is just to be nice as well. We have family that lives out of state, and even though they probably won’t be able to come to the engagement party, it is still proper to send an invite.