(Closed) Do I suck at DIY? Or is my FMIL just a B****?

posted 13 years ago in DIY
Post # 3
459 posts
Helper bee

They are NOT horrible, they’re great!   It sounds as if perhaps your Future Mother-In-Law is more concerned with "appearances" than about your wedding being an expression of who you and your Fiance are.   She need not worry though because from what I see, those DIY’s would stand up to the most discerning eye.  Don’t let her get you down!

Post # 4
202 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

Before even reading the post I was going to say B*#$% and the reason is, it is your wedding, if you have ask if someone is being a less than respectful participant, um, my instinct is to say YES.

However, after looking at your projects, my conclusions is YES, of course she is being a B*&^%$

These look AMAZING!!!

you clearly have talent in the design and creating category.

keep up the great work. 


Post # 5
459 posts
Helper bee

Wanted to add:  it stinks that she went over your head on the programs.  Make sure your cousin designs EXACTLY what you want, that way even if you didn’t get to make them, you can at least be completely happy with the end result. 

Post # 6
42 posts
  • Wedding: July 2010

I think they look fabulous. I wouldn’t worry about it, if you can, just let whatever she says slide off.


I recently was daydreaming about creating an etsy store for Gocco’d wedding invitations, and I was asking myself, why would someone pay me to make their invitations if they could do the same thing themselves? And then it dawned on me… not everyone is a DIY kind of person. There are tons of people, if not the majority of our society, that would MUCH rather pay someone to do something for them than lift a finger to do it themselves.


Your Future Mother-In-Law is probably just one of those people.


And, by the way, I would love to see your wordle program design! Please share!!! 

Post # 7
274 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

those look great! i especially like the pillow. it sucks that your Future Mother-In-Law is being so snooty & you’re really a bigger person than I am when it comes to letting someone take over your project. If I’d had my heart set on doing something & someone gave it away, I would’ve freaked out.

 Maybe you can avoid telling her about your other projects and then ignore her responses when they eventually come. At the end of the day, you’re happy that you made special things for your wedding & you’ll be happy everytime you see pictures and think about the fun you had creating stuff!

Post # 8
8375 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

omg they look fab! sorry your Future Mother-In-Law is being a huge Bia!! What’s her deal anyways? I got negative responses for doing my own stuff. "oh it’ll look sketchy" or "oh i was skeptical" etc. But it looks great!

If she says something again, just tell her "oh but it means so much more to have things handmade than just handing over money for wedding stuff…ANYBODY can do THAT" haha.  

Post # 10
129 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2021

Your fmil is inded a B!%@$!! Your diy is awesome I think the favor bags are my favorite!! That is really nice of you letting the cousin make the programs but let that be the last and only time fmil will get her way. I think that your diy is awesome and don’t let her comments get you down. I agree just don’t share this diy info or just say you bought it, and then when she says she likes it tell her you made it!

Post # 12
596 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2021 - Oakland Manor

no way, your projects are awesome and MUCH better than what you could "just buy"!

Post # 13
186 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I love it all. Do what you want and tell your cousin specifics. And then don’t tell your Future Mother-In-Law about any of it and she’ll never know what you paid for and what you made yourself!

Post # 14
203 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2009 - Westwind YWCA camp

Umm your Future Mother-In-Law is crazy (all respects intended 😉 )

Your DIY project rocks!  I think you did a GREAT job!  Maybe she was just thinking about other things and couldn’t be bothered to care at the time.


Post # 15
454 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2009 - Bernardo Winery

Amadopolis these projects ROCK! I agree w/ Lorienne, that perhaps she is too worried about what ppl might say. Personally I think those ppl would agree that the things you made are GREAT 🙂

Post # 16
1652 posts
Bumble bee

Those projects are adorable.  There is absolutely no reason for her to be snooty about them.  As for the programs, did your Fiance at least call his mom out for that?  I’m just wondering how you know she won’t pull something similar again.

Keep up the good work.  She’ll have to deal.

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