(Closed) Do I tell him I've gotten him an anniversary gift?

posted 6 years ago in Married Life
  • poll: what would you do?

    tell him

    don't tell him

    other?

  • Post # 2
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    If you’re exoecting a gift, give the poor guy a break and say something. 

    Post # 3
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2014

    I guess it depends on which you want more: a guaranteed gift (well maybe not guaranteed but at least likely) or the chance at a surprise which also brings a chance at disappointment if  he doesn’t get you anything. If he’s not a gift-giver then you might be setting both of you up for failure by #1 not letting him know that this is a gift-giving occasion (which might not be obvious since you’re going on a trip) and #2 allowing yourself to be disappointed if no gift shows up.

    you want a gift. Gifts are not his default behavior. It’s your first anniversary (so he’s got nothing to compare it to) and you’re going on a trip that just so happens to fall on your anniversary. You say you’ll be disappointed without a gift. So what could possibly go wrong? See what I mean?

    Post # 4
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: December 2014

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    gingerkitten:  If you are hoping for a gift, mention you’re excited about what you got him.

    Post # 5
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    Bumble Beekeeper

    If he is usually romantic and a frequent gift giver, I don’t think you need to worry about uneven gift giving. If you are concerned about him not getting you a gift, it can’t hurt to express your excitement about the gift you picked for him. 

    Post # 6
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    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Ask him if he would like to exchange gifts during your trip or after you get home? Gets the message across.

    Post # 9
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    Bee Keeper

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    gingerkitten:  This is something you should talk about before your anniversary especially if he thinks that getting you a gift isn’t something need be.

    Post # 10
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: January 2013

    This is one of those things where communication is important. If you already know you’ll be dissapointed if you don’t get a gift then you need to tell him. Or just have a conversation about how gifts in general are important to you and when you think it’s appropriate to give a gift. If not it seems like you’re setting him up for a sort of test and of course that’s not good! 

    Post # 13
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    Newbee

    Yes….do tell him. Sometimes men lack in this area. Mine sounds like yours @gingerkitten

    Post # 14
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: August 2017

    Don’t tell him!  Leave it a surprise!

    Post # 15
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: March 2015

    Yes definitely tell him! 

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