(Closed) Do I tell him?

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

personally i would go to my grandparents thanksgiving, since its their last one there and it means so much to them.

Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

I agree with bells.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Same here. If he was willing to pay for Thanksgiving, would he be willing to pay for a Christmas visit instead?

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I agree with the others, go to Thanksgiving at your grandparents, if he was willing to pay for California, he can pay to go to your grandparents. Your grandparents will not be around forever, enjoy the moments you can with them, California will be there next year.

Post # 7
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Newbee

If you want to see you grandparents, he and his family should understand that it imprtant to you.  If you would rather go to his parents, talk to your grandparents personally, not through your mom, they may appreciate it more.  Don’t let either side guilt you into one way or the other, do what you feel is best.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee

Yeah, you’ve got to talk to everyone involved. Don’t hide this from anyone. Talk to mom, talk to your grandparents and talk to your boyfriend. All of them will understand and someone is bound to help you out. It’s the last Thanksgiving at their house, you’ll regret not being there for it. I know I would.

Post # 10
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I agree with PP’s.  If this is a big thing for your grandparents and especially the last Thanksgiving at their house of 4 decades, I would go to that regardless of their visit.  If he’s willing to pay for you to go to Cali for T-giving, why not your hometown?  If I were him, and willing to pay for ‘a trip’, I’d pay for you to go home for this if it really meant that much to your grandparents.  Though it seems like its not that big a deal to you to be there for T-giving, as much as just seeing them in general.

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas

Hm, did I misunderstand the post? I thought you were simply asking if you should tell him about the conversation, not whether or not you should go with him? Am I the only one who read it that way?

Anyways, I think it’s probably something that can be left out – personally, I’m big believer in the idea of not trying to push him into talking about weddings if he doesn’t seem ready. He doesn’t need to know what you told your mom about hurrying it along 😉

Post # 13
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

Agree with Cardi, and looks like from your last post that you got it figured out.

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Yeah, I don’t think you need to tell him the details. Just say you talked to your Mom and you’re ABSOLUTELY SURE she’s okay with it. 

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

I agree you don’t need to tell him the reason why you’re going. Just let him know you’re simply excited to meet his parents.

Post # 16
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Helper bee

I’m sure whatever decision you make will be great.  I hope he doesn’t make you wait much longer, bc 1 month girl-waiting time is like 6 months boy time, so hopefully whether you see his family or yours first, one month won’t make a big difference to him.

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