Do I tell them?

posted 7 days ago in Pregnancy
Post # 2
3796 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

I mean I think now is the best time to have a built in excuse. Just because you dont feel you’re at risk doesn’t mean you wouldn’t pass it in to someone who is at risk. People shouldn’t be hanging out right now anyway. It’s one thing to gather for important meetings and necessary things…but getting together for the sake of getting together is silly right now.

Post # 3
293 posts
Helper bee

What are they asking you or suspicious of? Shouldn’t everyone be staying at home now, only leaving when necessary and no socially meeting up. I would’ve thought this is the easiest time ever to get away with hiding a pregnancy…

Post # 4
2219 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

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rosalily :  I think you’re overthinking this. I’m pregnant too, so I know how hard it is to keep the good news to yourself, and how it’s the first thing in your mind. But the truth is, it’s not the first thing on everyone else’s mind, especially right now. You’re self isolating because it’s been encouraged. I don’t even think anyone will ask why you’re working from home. You’re just following the government and CDC’s advise to stay inside and isolated if at all possible. 

Post # 5
6783 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2016

The UK has been a bit behind the curve in their response so if you’re pregnant, you especially should be following the guidelines of one of the countries with a more rigorous response in place.

What do you do? Stay in your house. What do you say? Tell your friends “I’m staying in my house.”

And stop telling people you have a temperature during a global pandemic where one of the signs of the illness is a temperature.

Post # 7
5872 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: July 2018

The advice is to avoid all social contact whether you are actually isolating or not, plus with everyone closing there isn’t really anywhere to go so I don’t think you have to tell them now if you would prefer not to.

Post # 8
727 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

It’s ‘permitted’ but advised against. All my friends are avoiding any unnecessary contact. I don’t think you need to say you’re pregnant. Government advice is not to meet up so just tell them you’re following government advice (and they should too). 

Post # 9
750 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2019

You don’t need to tell them you’re pregnant, but you do need to tell them they’re endangering the lives of everyone if they don’t stay home. Social isolation doesn’t mean groups of 5 friends meeting up to play board games, especially when young and healthy people can be asymptomatic. It means going to work if you must, and staying home with only the people who live in your home.

Really, all you need to do is tell them you can’t hang out because you are taking this seriously. If they give you a hard time, they are both ignorant and jerks. 

Post # 10
9127 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: Dorset, UK

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rosalily :  we should all be socially distancing so just tell people you are going to tuck up at home as you don’t want to get sick 

Post # 11
6825 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 1997

“Sorry, I’m not comfortable with that. That’s part of what got other countries to where they are, and it will only be a short time until we have school cancelled and are required to self-isiolate, too.”

Post # 12
717 posts
Busy bee

Just say you are socially isolating to be responsible and protect other people. I’m also early stage pregnant, and while that has me concerned, its not why I am socially isolating. I’m isolating because I believe I have a responsibility not to be a vector that might carry the disease to vulnerable people. So I can completley honestly give that as an explanation (and indeed the three other peopel with whom I am isoalting are NOT pregnant, and are acting exactly as I am, for the same reason.)

Post # 13
2226 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

Nobody should be catching up with their friends right now. They should be staying at home.

Post # 14
1281 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Another vote for you don’t have to tell them anything, because no one should be handing out with anyone other than who you currently live with right now.

Post # 15
47285 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

It doesn’t matter what the official recommendation is, or what your friends are doing, any rational person is self isolating. No other reason needed.

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