Post # 1
Basically, we had an online honeymoon registry and a couple chose one of the gifts and selected the “pay by cash or cheque” option, but then did not give us this cash or cheque at the wedding.
I’m writing out thank you cards and I’m wondering if I should thank them for the gift or not? I’m absolutely fine if they forgot to give it to us and don’t want to put them out, so my instinct is to thank them for it anyway… but if they intentionally didn’t give us the gift then they could take this as a rude hint I think… but then I don’t want to appear rude and not thank them if they thought they had given us the gift…
Post # 2
did you receive cash, check, or gift? if yes, then send a thank you note. if it is just marked as bought, but you haven’t received it, then don’t send one until you receive the gift.
Post # 3
If they didn’t actually give you anything, what would you thank them for? “Thanks for saying you’d get me something, and then not getting it?” It’s awkward, but thanking them when they didn’t give you something may just look like you’re dropping the hint that they owe you a present. They probably just forgot to give you the check, but I wouldn’t send anything unless/until they actually give it to you. I had people who accidentally double gifted, realized they did it and returned the item, then forgot to give anything after that. I just let it go and accepted that I wouldn’t get anything from them and that that was alright.
Post # 4
No, I wouldnt thank them for an imaginary gift. Just thank them for their presence at the wedding and hopefully they’ll get the hint that you never received their gift.
Post # 5
Even if they didn’t give you a gift you should still thank them for coming to the wedding.
Post # 6
Weddings arent about reciving gifts, anyone who attended your wedding should receive a thank you card
Post # 7
You didn’t receive a gift, so no. No need to send a thank you at this time. Also, your reception was the thank you to your guest for attending your wedding. No need to send a thank you note for that.
Post # 8
I’m sending a thank you to everyone who attended, regardless of gift because some of them had to travel a long way and it’s just what we do in my culture. I just felt that then not mentioning their gift then would be a bit rude…
In the end I’ve thanked them for coming and for their generosity and have said we will put pictures from the honeymoon up on social media and think of all of our friends and family… I think it’s vague enough that they could think we are thanking them or just think we are letting them know, but not that we are dropping hints.
Thanks everyone! 🙂