(Closed) Do I thank these people for the gift?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
7946 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

did you receive cash, check, or gift?  if yes, then send a thank you note.  if it is just marked as bought, but you haven’t received it, then don’t send one until you receive the gift.


Post # 3
3841 posts
Honey bee

If they didn’t actually give you anything, what would you thank them for? “Thanks for saying you’d get me something, and then not getting it?” It’s awkward, but thanking them when they didn’t give you something may just look like you’re dropping the hint that they owe you a present. They probably just forgot to give you the check, but I wouldn’t send anything unless/until they actually give it to you. I had people who accidentally double gifted, realized they did it and returned the item, then forgot to give anything after that. I just let it go and accepted that I wouldn’t get anything from them and that that was alright.

Post # 4
2538 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

No, I wouldnt thank them for an imaginary gift. Just thank them for their presence at the wedding and hopefully they’ll get the hint that you never received their gift.

Post # 5
275 posts
Helper bee

Even if they didn’t give you a gift you should still thank them for coming to the wedding.

Post # 6
853 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

Weddings arent about reciving gifts, anyone who attended your wedding should receive a thank you card

Post # 7
1056 posts
Bumble bee

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truthah:  You didn’t receive a gift, so no. No need to send a thank you at this time. Also, your reception was the thank you to your guest for attending your wedding. No need to send a thank you note for that.

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