Post # 1
Ok, so, our wedding is about 5.5 weeks away. Invites are out, RSVPs are coming in and things are coming together.
I have a ‘friend’ who is getting married the month after us, she got engaged about a month before us. Is this cause for an issue? Since getting engaged, she has hardly spoken to me and only does if I contact her. It’s uncomfortable when I run into her. She insists there is no problem, she’s just busy. I get the impression it’s something more. She’s invited to our wedding as earlier in the year we were very close and she automatically went on the list. Now I’m regretting it as she hasn’t really been my friend. Is there a polite way I can ask her to decline our invitation. I’m not very good at confrontation so thought I could write a note in a card. I’m sad and I miss our friendship but I don’t think I want her at our wedding anymore. It’s such a special day and I’m starting to think she doesn’t deserve to share it with us. FH was horrified she’s invited as he has never liked her. What can I do?
Post # 3
It may be a little harsh to have her decline your invite.
Perhaps your wedding will be a great way to clear the air, and really enjoy your friendship. I’m sure your emotions are running high right now and may be clouding your judgement or view of things right now!
Post # 4
No, there is no polite way to un invite someone.
Post # 5
There is nothing you can do except that it would be rude and tacky to ask her not to attend now. Just hope that she won’t come.
Post # 6
I don’t think there is a polite way. However, if she has been that distant, she likely won’t RSVP yes, so don’t worry about it. And if she tries to RSVP after your deadline, just say you already sent the headcount in and unfortunately she can’t be added.
Post # 7
This is so sad. 🙁 This is meant to be the most exciting and happy time of your lifes and you both have this dark cloud hanging over you. If your friend has told you she’s been really busy why dont you give her a call and see if she needs help with her wedding, or if she wants to catch up for a quick chat and have some wedding free time. All brides handle this ‘crazy time’ differently and she could use some understanding and support. You two can take this oppurtunity to use each other as support since your weddings are close and rebuild your friendship. At the very least let her know that you are here for her if she needs and that your looking forward to celebrating her day and have her celebrate yours. Be the bigger person and rebuild the friendship you miss. Best of luck.
Post # 8
I have tried everything, trust me. Her wedding is this giant big lavish secret. She doesn’t ask or offer anything about our wedding so she doesn’t have to give any details on hers. I have tried a thousand times just to catch up for lunch but she always says she is busy, yet she is ‘liking’ stuff on facebook all day, everyday. Do you think us getting married before her is cause for her to be offside with me? I truely hope not. Surely one person can’t think that they are the only person in the world that wants to get married.