I know exactly how you’re feeling.
LONG BACKGROUND STORY: My Fiance and I grew up a world apart and met when I was travelling in early 2005. We are currently on our 4th LDR stint.
The first one was by far the hardest. We had only been together for about 1.5 years at the time and spent 8 months on different continents (only saw each other once). I was an emotional mess and don’t know if I could’ve coped for much longer than I did. (The 9hr time difference certainly didn’t make life easier!)
The second time was after 4.5 years. I’d received a scholarship in London and went over there to study for 9 months (we saw each other once when he flew up to visit). It was still hard, but a lot easier than the first time.
The 3rd time was for 11 months last year due to his career. We were both in Australia, but about 3,000 kms (1,864 miles) apart. We saw each other 5 times, and it was sooo much easier than the previous times.
The 4th and current time is yet again work related, and will last for a year all-in-all. So far we’ve been apart for 3 months, and next time we’ll see each other will be at Christmas when we go to Europe for a month. It’s not ideal, but to be honest I cope quite well. I’ve learnt how to go about these things, spend lots of time with friends and do a lot of wedding DIY stuff to make time pass! 🙂
Once we get married next year we’ve promised to never ever do long distance again (other than the occasional short weekly stints – he’s a commercial pilot, so not much choice there).
NOW TO THE POINT. I completely agree with what @moorelove
said: LDRs never get easier but YOU get better at dealing with it.
At the start you think about it all the time, and it just seems like an eternity until you’ll see each other again. But after a while, once you develop your own routines, things definitely get easier. LDRs certainly aren’t for everyone, and it definitely requires a lot of trust. I also think it gets a lot easier the longer you’ve been together.
If you both know 100% that you want to spend your lives with each other, it’s actually quite simple. You just do what needs to be done, basically.
Best of luck and big hugs. I’m sure it’ll keep getting better with time.