(Closed) Do men care about Wedding Planning?

posted 10 years ago in Grooms/men
  • poll: Does YOUR man care about the wedding planning process?



    He will listen but not make decisions

    He will tell me what he wants( ie cake style) and then let me make decision

    He took over the planning - I am not allowed to do anything anymore!

    I wont let him, it'll stress me out too much!

  • Post # 3
    3993 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    With DH it was kind of hit or miss. I was surprised by some of the things he did care about (and not as surprised about some of them, lol.)

    Some examples: He cared about what he wore (obviously), the cake flavors, the grooms cake (he made his own), the music (this one surprised me), the photographer (but not as much as I did/I had final choice), and the date (this surprised me a little, but he’s weird like that.) OH! And the big one – what we drove away in. But this didn’t surprise me at all since he’s a car guy. I knew he’d have something arranged, even if it was last minute. haha. He didn’t care about food or the venue really, though he did go with me to all the venues.

    I don’t know, I just really think there are some things certain men care about that others don’t.

    Post # 4
    1374 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    A couple of those. I tell him what Im doing and also telling him some options. Plus he is picking some stuff. But some things I am not asking on. Sometimes what he thinks a wedding should be is so not what any weddings are. lol

    Its crazy.

    Post # 5
    204 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: February 2013

    My fiance is taking care of our norcal wedding.  =)  Though I can’t help dipping my feet into it and making myself more stressed, haha.

    Post # 6
    331 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I answered plain old “yes”

    My partner had been married before & his ex was kinda useless so he & his family did basically all the planning for his 1st wedding.

    This time round, he told me that he’s interested but doesn’t want to hog it, or feel like it’s just 1 person running the show. Basically I research whatever *thing* we’re discussing, or sound him out about an idea I see online, we throw a few options out there and discuss back & forth until we agree. But there’s been a few things he’s spoken up with that he specifically wants. So yeah, my man is interested.

    Post # 7
    979 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    No. Not really. He had some thoughts about the food and alcohol. I passed by him all of my ideas, but in terms of decorating, please, he didn’t know what a candy buffet was or what a bustle was haha! So he says “whatever works!”

    Post # 8
    3345 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    mine- not really.  I will ask his opinions, but when it comes to making decisions the weight is usually on me.  

    Post # 9
    1549 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    My Fiance is super opinionated about what he wants and how he thinks things should be done. He is more in to logistics then picking out colors. 

    Post # 10
    29 posts
    • Wedding: April 2014

    My wedding is far out so right now we are just tossing around ideas. My Fiance only cares about the food, what he wears, and the travel/hotel accomodations for our out of town guest. Oh and transportation but as far as colors, decor things like that he couldn’t care less Lol.

    Post # 11
    1691 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I did pretty much all of the planning and decision making myself. I would ask Fiance what he thought of something and his reply was always along the lines of, “That sounds good. Do that.” He’s really not into the planning part, which is fine because I enjoy it. 

    Post # 12
    1486 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2013

    My FH is totally involved. He is even the one that came up with the theme for our wedding when he picked out what he wanted to wear. Last night we were looking at venues too.

    Since this is my second marriage I really appreciate this. A couple years ago I said I wasn’t sure if I would ever get married again and having him help just makes me feel more secure in our decisions.

    Post # 13
    2268 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    If I asked his direct opinion about something he’d usually give it, and a few things we decided together (date, location, invite list, groomsmen clothes, vows, music). But things like flowers, centerpieces, Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses, flower girl petals, etc, he didn’t care about.

    Post # 14
    717 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    Yes, mine does. I’m so lucky, too, since while I enjoy planning and making decisions, for the wedding planning, I need someone to keep me sane and from panicking!

    The day before yesterday, my Fiance stopped into a cake bakery and spoke with the owner and she’s giving us a discount because he was so active in the planning and had ideas of his own and then he brought me back yesterday to finalize things. It’s awesome! And he pretty much solified the ceremony venue, reception venue, and caterer. I sent him random information, but he was able to put it together. His mind works better that way than mine.



    Post # 15
    1955 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    Mine did. I wasn’t expecting it, but was really pleasantly surprised that he cared about the day too. He didn’t have strong opinions about everything (like flowers-he did not care at all about flowers). But he was involved with venue, food, music, minister, cake, and invitations. While he totally decided on the rehearsal dinner and what he would wear; I had sole decision on my dress, flowers, bridesmaids dresses and photographer (although I did show him the 2 I’d narrowed it down to and he was fine with either).

    Post # 16
    10972 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    @happyface:  DH had WAYYYYYY too many opinions. Haha.

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