(Closed) Do need to have a personal attendant?

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
595 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I didn’t have one but then again I am not really sure what a personal attendant is.

Post # 4
738 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I’ve never even heard of a personal attendant! Is it like maid of honor?

Post # 5
9118 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Uh… no?

I have no clue what a PA would do. I’m pretty sure I’m functional in all ways and if I need something or want something, I can go get it myself or have somebody fetch me a glass of water or something.

I’ve never heard of such a thing. Every wedding I have attended or been in, the bride didn’t have any sort of attendant.

Post # 6
16195 posts
Honey Beekeeper

Okay, to be totally honest, I’m not even 100% sure what a personal attendant is. I’ve been in a few weddings, and none of those brides had one. For my weddding, my mom, mother-in-law, and bridemaids helped me get through the day!

Post # 7
6015 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

Is that someone to help you get ready?  Like zip you up? 

Well either way, I didn’t have one. Things went just fine.

Post # 9
2716 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I didn’t have a PA, but I did have day-of coordinator.  I’ve actually never heard of a PA until I came to the Bee.  From my understanding, a PA is like the bride’s personal – for lack of a better word – b*tch.  Someone to run last minute errands, deal with vendors, fetch the bride food and beverage, etc.  It appears that it’s regional and some people are ok with it, but it always seemed like a crappy “honor” to bestow on someone.  You are asking them to be unpaid labor for the day without the recognition of being a Bridesmaid or Best Man.

Our venue also gave us an event captain (awesome name right?) that helped my coordinator set up the reception space and she directed the reception.  If your venue doesn’t provide something like that, I might look to hire someone for just the day.  It could be really helpful if you forget a check, need help coordinating with vendors, or need any errands run the day of.  But it’s really going to depend on how large and eleborate your wedding is. 

But if you do decide you need help, hire someone.  Don’t ask your friends to work (for free) on your wedding.


Post # 11
1548 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I don’t really know what a personal attendant is, but I will have a fitter coming from the dress shop to help me and the BMs get dressed, make sure all our dresses are steamed and look good before the ceremony and reception. She also makes sure my makeup and hair is touched up when needed.

Our venue also provides a day-of coordinator to deal with all the vendors, make sure setup done properly, finals payments are made to the vendors. I wouldn’t imagine having one of my bridesmaids do this kind of thing.

Post # 12
11233 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

@melitabonita:  Isn’t that what your Maid/Matron of Honor is for? That’s what mine is doing (though without being asked–I just found this out the other day, haha).

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