Post # 1
Yesterday was a stressful day of work and dealing with extended family that wants to come to our wedding but we really just don’t have the space and can’t afford to invite “family” we’ve only met once.
I was finally relxing and unwinding for the night when I get a text message from someone complaining that the heard we weren’t offering plus ones. Now thankfully this was a friend that I could be blunt with so I told him I haven’t sent out any invites yet but if he keeps complaining about not get a plus one, he might not get any invatation at all. LOL!
But for heavensake! We are paying for this wedding out of our own pocket. We do not want to go broke or in debt over it. Our wedding is not a place for you to go on a first date! We have a total of 5 people that we are giving plus ones to. Most of them, we know their significant others, but they have been together less time so we didn’t want to include their names on the invite JUST IN CASE anything happenes. But that is it. 5 people total will have plus ones. Because everyone will know people at the wedding! Its 100 people tops. Family and friends. And we keep our circles close. You will know plenty of people at the wedding.
So the next person that complains to me better watch it or they might not be getting an invite at all. 😀 (I jut had to get that off my chest!)
Post # 3
Haha, you tell’em girl! People don’t get it. They really don’t. This is not a time for people to parade their ‘hurt’ feelings around, it’s YOUR time!
Post # 4
@StephieBee: Thankfully, I think he understood but people just don’t think about the cost and size limitations those planning weddings might have. My uncle keeps trying to have a say in our wedding so I finally told him to put up or shut up. Hehe! I said “If you want ANY imput on our wedding the fee is $1000 donation to start. Until then, hush up. I don’t wanna hear it.” 😀
Post # 5
@Polaris: Haha seriously, that’s the way to do it. People are OBLIVIOUS and they assume just ONE more person won’t do anything to your budget. Hey, they’ll even chip in $50! …. *eyeroll*..
So, my youngest brother is 19. He was apalled that he couldn’t bring a date to my wedding. He said that “everyone should be allowed to bring a date, it’s a freaking wedding! I don’t want to be the only single one there!” Oh, dear brother. He’s never been to a wedding (apart from my dad’s when he was 7), so he has no clue. I got no shortage of messages on FB and texts cursing me out for now allowing him to bring a date (or joking that he’d do it anyway).
At the end of it all, my mom helped reel him in. It would’ve been one thing if he was in long term relationship, but this kid doesn’t date anyone past 3 weeks, so we didn’t feel it was necessary 😉
Post # 6
@Polaris: people are so rude. Multiple people have asked fi and myself why they are not invited, or will get intoxicated and get upset that they are not invited and cause a scene.
Post # 7
I blame TV/Movies…characters are always looking for dates to weddings! If you don’t go to a lot of weddings, and don’t know how invites work, you just assume you get a date! I know that’s what I thought when I was younger…but I also went to a wedding without RSVPing AND didn’t go to a wedding that I said I would…the only other weddings I had been to at that point were ones I was in, so I didn’t know any of the etiquette involved. You live, you learn.