Do not want to attend my ex's intervention.

posted 10 months ago in Emotional
Post # 31
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2451 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

This went from husband wanting to pursue a dead end music career with female friend to him being out of control with booze and strippers to divorce and intervention so fucking fast 

Post # 32
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839 posts
Busy bee

You don’t owe anyone anything. Period.

That being said, is this ‘intervention’ being facilitated by a trained professional? The only time I would give this one second of thought would be if it was supervised by a trained professional who thought my presence might benefit him. Otherwise, this is just a shit show orchestrated by his mom that is almost certain to end badly. 

Post # 33
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563 posts
Busy bee

You don’t owe him anything. You need to get away from him and you have no obligation to show up at that intervention.

Post # 34
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783 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2005

Why are you still talking to his sister and his family? You posted the other day and we all gave you advice on blocking them completely. His sister is spilling details on him sticking his dick in women who do porn, then she confides he is doing drugs, and then he calls you and ask you to take him back.

PLEASE GIRL, TAKE THE ADVICE YOU WERE PREVIOUSLY GIVEN AND BLOCK ALL COMMUNICATION WITH THEM AND LEAVE THEM BLOCKED. AS PREVIOUSLY MENTIONED, SEND HIM AN EMAIL AND TELL HIM IF HE WISHES TO COMMUNICATE HE CAN DO SO THROUGH YOUR LAWYER. 

Post # 35
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Sugar bee

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princessanon0125 :  wait, we are actually supposed to expect people to follow advice that they are given on these boards?  

Post # 36
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719 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2021 - Dracut, Massachusetts

cripes, what a goddamnned shitshow. i would have said to her “and you’re an asshole” when she called you heartless and hung up. run far away from these idiots and block them all. 

Post # 37
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

IF she hadn’t tried to blame you for his problems, I would have written a letter that they could have read at his intervention. “Your drug use has affected me and our relationship in the following ways…” But now that she’s blaming you? NO WAY.

Post # 38
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337 posts
Helper bee

You don’t owe him anything. Your ex’s family lacks accountability for their actions, his mother is just shifting the blame because she obviously waivers to her children’s indiscretions and has no follow through. 

Post # 39
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1468 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2019 - City, State

Bee…these people are nuts.  Your ex husband, his sister, his mom, ALL of them.  They’re all certifiable.  Block them from any and all communication ever, anywhere, anyhow.

Do you have a support system/family/friends nearby?  Lean into them.  Spend time with them.  Spend time just doing normal ass shit together and hanging out and taking a breather.  Let the dust settle from all the crazy.  It will all be ok, but I’m so sorry you’re going through this.

Post # 40
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

She’s insane and I would 200% call her out on her bullshit. 

“Hey Ex-MIL, my relationship with {ex} is over and I’m removing myself from this situation. That’s great you’re stepping up to help but I will not be a part of it. Furthermore, before you call me “heartless” a little self-reflection could benefit you. I’m doing perfectly fine and yet you have two children in porn and particpating in heavy drug use. Please don’t contact me again.”

I’m also a petty Betty so I would find great joy in sending that text.

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