Post # 1
Do you think relationships tend to be more successful when the partners are similar, or more like opposites? How similiar are you and your SO/FI/DH?
This is purely hypothetical and I just want to hear your thoughts! For me personally, Fiance and I are very similar, but different enough that I’m not engaged to myself lol. However, I know of a couple who are complete opposites in every single way and I have no idea how they make it work. So tell me bees, what do you think and what has been your personal experience?
Post # 2
FutureMrsHodgy: Fiance and I are very similar. We have very similar personalities and senses of humor, but we do have some different interests. We also have similar priorities in life.
I think that more similar people generally make better partners, but I do think it is possible to make it work being very different as long as your core values are similar.
Post # 3
My SO and I are very similar as far as our interests, but very different as far as our habits/personalities. I’m very organized and on-top of things, while he is more relaxed. It’s been a good balance, because he can easily handle my sometimes controlling personalities, but we’ve had to adjust to each others’ habits to know how to react in certain situations.
However, be both love our time at home, we love hockey, we’ve adopted each others’ interests… such as my sudden addiction to MMA. We both love trying new food/delicious food, acoustic music, and our view on our future together (although we started in 100% different places) have grown to be very similar.
Post # 4
My fiancé and I are similar where it counts (goals, outlook on life, expectations), but different enough that things are still interesting. We share some interests but also each have our own separate interests that keep us occupied. I would say overall, we are more alike than different. Our relationship is successful because we enjoy spending time together and doing the same things, but also support eachother in our differences. Also we have the same sense of humor. Love that!
Post # 5
FutureMrsHodgy: I prefer to be with someone who I have a lot in common with. However, I don’t think it’s that important that you have similar hobbies and interests (since these things can change), but I do think it’s important that you’re a similar “type” of person (since I think this rarely changes).
Fiance and I are very alike in a lot of important ways. We have similar world views, similar future goals, we want the same kind of life. We have the same types of priorities. Neither of us has a bad temper, neither of us is big on fighting- we’re both quick to compromise. We’re both thinkers, and while we have some different interests, we have a lot of common interests as well. We are definitely more alike than different.
The area where we are most different is our strengths, which I actually always wanted in a partner. I think it’s smart to have different strengths, because as a couple you come out ahead. My Fiance is a math major, he’s very calm, he can build/fix anything, he’s super tidy, he’s great at arranging spaces so that they work well, he’s a much harder worker than I am, and he’s super motivated. But, he doesn’t plan ahead, he doesn’t like doing knit picky budgeting or comparison shopping- but I do. I am much better at long-term planning, budgeting, investing, and researching.
We’ve moved a lot of times, I’m always the one doing the research, finding the new place, and getting a good deal. He’s the one who can figure out how to pack all of our possessions into a small car, build shelves, paint, and make any space we choose livable.
It’s the best of both worlds.
Post # 6
You could say my husband and I are opposites. We have different personality traits but really balance each other out. I could not be with someone who is as controlling or sensitive as me….
Over time though, we’ve become really similar with the way we talk, our sense of humor, the things we like, how we react to certain situations, etc. I think that sort of happens when you’ve been with someone for so long.
Post # 7
- Wedding: September 2012 - Southern California
Darling Husband & I are more opposite in terms of our personality. He’s outspoken, I’m introverted; he tends to be idealistic, I’m more realistic.
We have very similar views & life goals though which is important & I think we otherwise ‘balance’ each other out well!
On a side note, Darling Husband & I have been told twice that we look similar/could be siblings ..super weird haha. We’re not related 😉
Post # 8
FutureMrsHodgy: FI and I are very similar in our beliefs, hobbies and certain ways on how we were raised. BUT with our personalities, they’re very different. I’m a very aggressive personality, and he is nothing close to that. I think it works well because he can calm me down, but I can also push him to stand up for himself in certain situations. Everyone in my family says we’re a perfect match because we’re opposites.
Post # 9
stephanie091512: Haha, that’s so funny- Fiance and I get told ALL THE TIME that we look like siblings. We joke that it’s because we’re both so vain that we ended up with the male/female version of ourselves.
Post # 10
I don’t think similarities are important in most things. You just have to have similar core values, ways of viewing money, spirituality, etc.
But, I don’t think similarities are important with the superficial every day routines such as hobbies, personal tastes and preferences, etc.
Post # 11
We are similar in some ways but also opposite in others. We have the same/similar core beliefs, values, ways of living and I think that’s important.
Post # 12
I wouldn’t say we are opposites, more like complements. His different way of doing things and thinking about things actually helps me in ways I never considered before we met.
Post # 13
FutureMrsHodgy: My first husband was pretty the opposite of me. When I was going through the divorce, a few people told me they didn’t know how we ever ended up together in the first place. I was pretty surprised! So when talking to my mom and sort of lamenting the whole thing I brought it up and I said, “Opposites attract!” And she said, “But they don’t stay together.” And I was like, “Why didn’t you tell me THAT part before!” Lol!
LET ME ADD IN HERE BEFORE ANYONE FREAKS OUT ON ME that I’m sure it’s different for everyone. I’m sure marriages can last 100 years if you are opposites, it just didn’t for me. And I have found someone who is such a better match for me now!
Post # 14
We have our differences, like he’s extrovert, I’m introvert, he’s a doormat, I can be pushy etc but this helps us balance. We certainly share the things that matter,like beliefs and values. Our friends say we’re perfect for each other
Butterfly6: I agree 100%
Post # 15
We have some differences, but Fiance and I are extremely compatible and have similar outlooks on life. Even though “opposites attract” is a popular saying, I think having commonalities, especially on fundamental issues, makes a relationship function more smoothly.