(Closed) Do other bees negative opinions about e-rings (like yours) upset you?

posted 4 years ago in Rings
  • poll: Do you get upset if another bee says something that could be taken as criticism on your e-ring?

    Yes, I get sad/angry, so I say something just as hurtful back!

    No, I don't care at all. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion. I know what I like.

    A little. But the negative thoughts gets "stuck" deep inside, and I think about them often.

    Negative comments on Weddingbee have affected my ring choice!

    Yes, and I let them know that it hurt me!

    I have cried because of what someone said on weddingbee.

    Comments on weddingbee have changed the way I look at my own ring! (In a negative way!)

    I am ashamed of showing my ring on weddingbee.

    I just laugh at criticism!

  • Post # 62
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    1295 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2018

    No it doesn’t bother me – I absolutely love my ring and honestly have not come across anything I like better either online or in person.

    I do however always try to be tactful when commenting on other people’s rings, usually saying that it’s not to my personal taste but I like X on it or something.

    Post # 63
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    489 posts
    Helper bee

    No. Everyone is entitled to their own tastes. I think it’s kind of rude and distasteful when people say really negative things about a particular style of ring or that it’s ugly, but most of the time opinions are expressed in a more respectful way.

    Post # 64
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    205 posts
    Helper bee

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    BeeDD :  Some people lack tact.

    I personally haven’t gotten any criticism, but I’ve thought “JERK!” when other people criticize someone else’s ring as if their own taste is the only one that is acceptable.

    Post # 65
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    2688 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2017

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    crackerjax :  Yours or mine? (Coffee) lol

    Post # 66
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    3030 posts
    Sugar bee

    Personally, I haven’t seen Bees be mean about rings on here. If anything, I think the threads I’m on, people are uplifting and nice. 

    I think sometimes people forget that engagement rings are meant to be a gift and therefore reflect personality. Some people have the classic elegance of a round solitare, some are sassy and stylish and a princess cut matches and then there are eclectic, weirdo girls like me who wanted and got a sapphire. There’s nothing wrong with all of the choices out there. It’s nice we don’t all have the same smile

    Post # 67
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2017

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    RayKay :  I fail to see what hillarious about people having an understanding of different styles and that the people critisizing their stuff just have opposit taste undecided

    theres a complete difference in ‘caring/crying over peoples opinions’ and ‘having one of your own’ if anything you care far less when you have an understanding that your style is just opposit… they think mines ‘boring, cheap, juvinile’ I think theres is ‘flashy, gaudy, try hard’ and neither care that its not the others taste but we understand they are completely different styles and thats why we dont take it to heart

     

    Post # 68
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2017

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    crackerjax :  you mean a ‘backhanded compliment’

    a ‘left handed compliment’ would be offensive as if being left handed is somehow a bad thing

    Post # 69
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    4216 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2016 - Manhattan, NY

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    cmsgirl :  I have a marquise diamond e-ring and have never heard that comparison! LMAO I definitely don’t see a vagina when I look at my ring, but maybe that shows where someone else’s head is at… 

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    bibilicious :  I’ve never read anything directed at my ring that I didn’t like on here, and everything else is just someone’s opinion! We all have our preferences, and some people are better at articulating them without offending than others. At the end of the day, no one has the ability to change my mind about how I feel about my rings, because I love them. 

    Post # 70
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    369 posts
    Helper bee

    It doesn’t bother me, but then again I haven’t really experienced any negative comments about my ring on this site. Everyone is entitled to their own opinions, if someone doesn’t like my ring that’s fine, they don’t have to wear it. It’s possible I wouldn’t like their ring either, but does my opinion really matter? Not really, I’m not the one who will be wearing it every day. I think everyone has been (so far) very helpful and friendly when it comes to ring specs (carat size, stone type, style, etc.) although I have seen some posts that get pretty mean.

    Post # 71
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    5019 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2017

    To each their own.  I don’t take to heart the opinion of the Bee’s and I don’t look for their approval when determining any detail of my wedding.

    As for my ring I have a diamond solitaire.  Some here find that timeless, beautiful and classic while others find it boring, plain, unethical and simple. *shrugs*

    Post # 73
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    3657 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: January 2000

    Oh cmsgirl, your comments about a sparkely va jay jay were hilariois.

    I love my marquis diamond, and, they are making a comeback. 

    Post # 75
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    937 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2018

    I have a yellow gold 3-stone – not the most popular choice, but it’s exactly what I wanted. 

    I think it’s silly to take offense to something a stranger says online about your ring (or anything else wedding related), but one thing I wish we all would work on is the way we express our opinions.

    Granted, communicating online is obviously different than voice or face-to-face: without reading body language or noticing voice inflection, the mood can be hard to come across. I’m sure I’ve seen several comments that I’ve thought, “wow that sounded really rude” that weren’t actually intended that way.

    That being said, it really grinds my gears when I see comments that are just blatantly bitchy – i.e. what counts as a ‘real’ engagement ring, etc.

    Basically this is me reading every single thread (except the one about the lady who keeps her golden retriever puppy outside – dogs are like the only thing that I get fired up about lol):

     

     

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