Do our men really want boudoir photos ?

posted 5 years ago in Photos/Videos
Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Mine would, and he the male photographer thing doesn’t bother him either. I wish I would have had enough confidence to do it before I got married and gained weight. Oh well!

Post # 17
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

Before I got married, I didn’t see the point (and I still don’t, for myself). Before we started TTC though, I had a shoot, and now that I’m 23 weeks pregnant, I couldn’t be more glad that I did! I wouldn’t have been comfortable getting a male photographer though, it had to be a female for me.

Post # 18
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443 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

Also, the pictures are as much for myself as they are for him.

Post # 19
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Buzzing Beekeeper

The trouble I see with them is that once you give them the photos as a gift they become their property. I know no one likes to think about breaking up but if you did and it was messy then you have given your partner a loaded gun that he can use to hurt you. 

Post # 20
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

As someone who did a shoot, he likes the pics but doesn’t look at them a lot. I did mine for me though, so it was worth it.

Post # 21
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2015

I think it depends on how much it will cost you.. I’ve mentioned it to my Fiance once and he seemed to like the idea.. That being said I know my photographer well and her prices are very reasonable. 

But not only am I going to do the photos for him.. I want them for myself too. I plan to have an amazing body for my wedding day and I think I’ll be proud to look at those photos 10..20..30 years down the road.

Post # 22
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

AndysCraftsNmore:  FWIW, as a photographer, I’ve only had one person do it as a gift to their spouse. In their case, they were a somewhat juvenile couple (not in age, just in personality and life experience) and so I do think he appriciated it and she thought she was “awesome” for doing it for him. Every other session I’ve done have been women who want to do it for themelves. The last one I did just about 3 weeks ago was a mom who over the last year has found a love of fitness and dropped the 75 pounds she’d been carrying around since her son was born. She felt amazing about herself and wanted the photos to remind her that hard work does pay off.

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Post # 23
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I actually asked my Darling Husband if he’d ever want me to do them. He said he didn’t understand the point of the pictures when he could see me naked whenever he wanted. His exact words were: “Why look at pictures when I have the real deal.” I guess if you lived in different cities or were a part? FH and I did long distance for a few years, but we had Skype — which is still better than pictures. 

Post # 24
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

AndysCraftsNmore:  My Fiance looked at me like I’d lost my mind and said “why would I want to look at a picture when I have the real thing?”

Post # 25
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Busy bee

My husband thinks they’re ridiculous. I asked if he’d like something like that as a wedding gift and he was like “I get to see you like that in real life…” He’d rather see me photographed in a gorgeous dress and prettied up hair and make-up, that’s what gets him riled up. He’s weird. 

Post # 26
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

It’s not the kind of photography that my Darling Husband would appreciate and he thinks it is somewhat tasteless. No criticism intended for anyone who DID a boudoir shoot but this is something that’s very specific for individual couples. Some like it. Some don’t.

I think one of the saddest things I’ve ever read on this topic appeared on a UK Bridal forum and was the post from someone who’d had a series of boudoir pictures taken. She presented them (in a beautiful album and included a thoughtful and loving message) to her Fiance on the morning of their wedding as a pre-wedding gift. Her Fiance was truly horrified and actually questioned whether the marriage should go ahead because he couldn’t understand why she might think this was something he’d ever want her to do.  A drastic reaction yes, but an interesting counter to the assumption that this is something men (as a species!) would love to receive. 

Post # 27
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

I used to do freelance modeling a couple of years ago. I did a couple lingerie shoots to up my portfolio (never used them for anything). I have them on a flash drive and never had them printed. I showed them to FH one day. He liked them and thought they were tastful and sexy. Yet, he didn’t jump for joy or suggest printing them or anything. 

As PPs have stated, I think it depends on the guy and the relationship you have with him. I won’t be doing boudoir pics, because it didn’t seem to do much for him. (he did take me into the bedroom right after seeing them). Yet, it was nice for him to look at, once. I think for me, it is an expense I would rather put towards the honeymoon. That way he can really appreciate YOU and not a picture. 😉

Post # 28
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

AndysCraftsNmore:  I think it depends on the guy.  It’d be silly to assume all men have the same taste/preferences in gifts. 

Post # 29
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Newbee

A couple people have stated their husbands only looked at the photos once (that they know of). That may be true but it doesn’t mean he doesn’t still have the image of you in his head and think about it often 😉 <br /><br />

Think about what your fiance would like or just ask him! I personally think it is an important investment. Sexual intimacy is crucial in a marriage! Of course use a female photographer if it makes you more comfortable. Also it doesn’t have to be full nude, I have seen very tasteful photos that are still sexy and could even be on display in the bedroom. Examples: 

 

 

Post # 30
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

In general, I think the giving of boudoir pics is a bit ‘ugh’. I have no issue with a woman empowering herself with a photoshoot celebrating the beauty and the power of her body, but doing it as soft porn for the husband? No. 

nursepeach9:  I can still think of a million other things I would like on my bedroom walls more than those type of images. Make that two million. 

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