- 7 years ago
- Wedding: June 2012
So I am dreading having our parents meetiing…
We’ve been dating for 5 years… started dating a month into University (he was a second year) my super controlling parents who I lived to please before university found out I was dating someone and started lecturing me about focusing on school… When they found out that he was Anglo-indian they pretty much gave me the ultimatum break up or they were disowning me. They didn’t care that he was christian (as am I – not that my parents practice) and pretty much the whitest kid ever he had brown skin and that was all that mattered :(. So this was really the first time I stood up for myself. The only phone calls we had for 2 years were me calling my mom and telling her to let my younger sister do things (sister would call me and complain).
In my third year of University I was sent to emerg because my appendix needed to be removed ASAP… so Fiance called my grandma (he had met and had great relationships with my mom 6 siblings and parents by this point)… Grandma called parents… They finally realize what an amazing man he was and finally got to know him. All is forgiven and forgotten in our books and we have such a great relationship with my parents now.
Obviously his parents knew about my parents disapproval and now they know things are great! HOWEVER his Dad is the most grudge-holding person ever. He didn’t have the best childhood – shipped away to an evil boarding school, now has his mom living with them because apparently none of his siblings will take her (even though she raised Fiance and Future Sister-In-Law while the parents worked). A few weeks ago he even asked why we were inviting his siblings to the wedding (UMM HELLLO??? just because you dont have a relationship with your siblings because you are a bitter odl man doesn’t mean your son can’t!!) So I cried and his mom said everything will be fine just to sit them at another table (LOL). His mom is super amazing and patient.
Now to the point – I’ve told my parents about the dad’s craziness and they are reluctant to meet.. haha But will 🙂 Just need to figure out something. I was thinking a dinner (his parents only go to Mandarin (chinese buffet) and my parents NEVER do). But I’m nervous his dad will say something hurtful… and if he bad talks my family I know I will cry/explode. We have forgiven and forgotten and he should respect that… stressful 🙂