Post # 1
- Wedding: September 2016 - The White Barn
So I have a question…I’m getting together my bridesmaid gifts and was wondering do I also make a gift of appreciation to my parents/grooms parents as well? I’m getting my mom and dad something for helping and paying for my wedding but was also thinking about getting my fiance’s parents something too for the help and money they are putting into this wedding. So I guess my question is is it expected? Bride etiquette?
Post # 2
I don’t know that it’s expected but most people I know have given the parents (both sides) a gift to thank them for everything. We gave both of our parents gift certificates to a very nice restaurant that the normally wouldn’t eat at on their own dime. They got to dress up and have a nice date night to relax after the wedding.
Post # 3
i believe you gift those that contribute to the day. we gifted our wedding party, ceremony readers, and my parents because they paid for part of our wedding. i got them really sweet personalized hankerchiefs from etsy.
my husband’s parents didn’t contribute so i didn’t gift them. since it would have been awkward to gift my parents in front of them at the rehearsal dinner, i held off giving my parents their gift until the morning of the wedding.
Post # 4
- Wedding: September 2016 - The White Barn
I think we’re gonna do that. Kind of in a conundrum because my fiancé’s parents are split and his mom isn’t doing really anything…his dad and step mom are tho!
Post # 5
We are doing gifts for both sets of parents, since everyone has been very helpful! We decided on hankies (the ones to my mom and dad are just from me and same with him and his parents). We also purchased a weekend getaway gift certificate for his parents for a weekend of their choice at a cute place a few hours away. My parents are going to Vegas in October, as soon as they pick a hotel we will purchase a gift card them for their trip!
Post # 6
its pretty standard to get parents gifts… flowers are traditional for mother however thats changing a lot now
Post # 7
I saw soemthing I liked on Etsy for H’s mother, sister and SIL, who were to attend my bridal shower, so after I gave the hostesses their gifts (I put together some floating lockets for them, sil=milar but personalized as well). For H’s family, I gave them a small silver tree pendant on a chain with a poem I’d seen:
Soon I’ll walk down the ailse to join your family tree,
Thank you for all you do, from the groom and me.
H and I coulnd’t afford to do really fancy gifts but I managed to put th lockets and pendants together for less than they would have been buying them outright. we also got small personalized knives for the men who planned H’s bachelor shooout/campout.
H and I destination eloped, and technically had no party, or attendants, but I wanted our friends who insisted on giving us showers and each a bachelor/bachlorette party how much we appriciated them all, and also take away a little of what we fear was some disappointment that we didn’t plan a big wedding to include everyone (lots of factors why we didn’t).
Post # 8
I gave an expensive gift to the parents who contributed more and an inexpensive gift to the parents who didn’t contribute as much. It wasn’t obvious, as the expensive gift was a gift card, couldn’t see the value on it. And then I gave both the mothers an embroidered handkerchief the day of the wedding, which if I’m being honest neither of them really cared about. I think they were so excited about the wedding that no gift I gave them was going to make much of an impact. I’d get my 50 bucks back if I could.
Post # 9
I got picture frames for the parents as gifts.. one for his parents with a sweet poem about raising the man of my dreams, with our names and the date; my mom and step dad with a poem about always having them in my heart, and one for my dad with lyrics to our father/daughter song we are dancing to. I think I’m going to gift the frames before/at the wedding and then give them a nice photo once we get them back from the photographer.
I don’t think it’s a bad idea to get even a small gift for each parent/set of parents regardless of their contributions money-wise.
Post # 10
Parents typically are given gifts to thank them for helping you, supporting you, loving, you, raising you, etc.
Post # 11
- Wedding: September 2017 - Mississauga Convention Centre
Our parents and grandparents are contributing to our wedding we will be getting them gifts
Post # 12
I never knew it was a thing until i read these boards. But I know that my parents didn’t expect anything from me, my dad used to say that people are supposed to give to the bride and groom not the opposite (he said this about us making up the welcome bags, he meant that it was nice of us to give the bags to the guests). We paid for our wedding ourselves so not sure if my Mother-In-Law expected a present but I cannot possibly imagine what I would have been thanking her for anyway.
Post # 13
We’re getting our parents similar gifts to the wedding party (a personalized pocket watch for his dad, jewelry and a spa-at-home basket for the moms), then making a parent album for each family to present to them at Christmas.
Our siblings, who each got married several years ago, have no recollection if they gave anything other than the parent album to any of the parents. Either it wasn’t expected in our area by then or it just has been forgotten as time goes on.
Post # 14
I’ve never heard of parents receiving gifts at a wedding, but i do think its a really lovely idea
Post # 15
Fiance and I haven’t discussed it yet, but I’m definitely going to figure out gifts for both sets of parents. Mine are paying for the wedding. And his are officiating it! I think that’s worth a great big thank you. 😀