MemberEven though I got married last year, we’ve already thought about doing a vow renewal for our 10 year anniversary. But we wanted to a destination one in the Caribbean or something of that nature. Most destination weddings tend to have less than 75 people so will people attend a destination vow renewal?
MemberMaybe you should wait….8 years? And ask the question again?
I likely would not. I might make an exception for a close family member if we didn’t already have vacation plans that year. I’m not a huge fan of vow renewals in general, though. You’ve already promised the vows. Did they suddenly expire and need to be resaid?
MemberI probably would if I was close to the person and had the time off, but I looove Caribbean vacations and can afford it, so I’m probably the exception and not the rule
MemberI don’t think I’d make a point to attend. If they happened to be going somewhere I wanted to go at a time that was convenient… maybe. But I wouldn’t bend over backwards to attend.
MemberKeep in mind, a vow renewal is not another wedding. It would really be for just the two of you. So even if you had it at home, you wouldn’t get a lot of people to come.
You could throw a big 10 year anniversary party instead. Although to be honest I would think it a little funny to be invited to a 10 year party! A decade is an accomplishment I suppose but not a very big one. Most people hold off on the big parties until more signfiicant annivesaries – 25, 30, 40, 50 years and up. You could include the vow renewal as part of the 25th anniversary party. I always think that is kind of cute.
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MemberI would! I love an excuse to travel, but on my own, FH and I really don’t ever go on vacation. So this would be a fun *excuse* to travel somewhere nice. Kind of like a family reunion in a fun place.
MemberI think a 10 year celebration with immediate family invited to a destination vacation would be awesome! I think you’d have to plug it more as a vacation for the family – a family reunion with your 10 year celebration tacked on.
Member@crayfish: I prob will ask again in 8 years just to see what people think. I really don’t look at it as a vow renewal, but more as a celebration of marriage and would call it such at that time. I just use vow renewal because that’s a more common name.
@Magdalena: I don’t see it as another wedding but I do want a chance to do something that would involve the kids that we would have at that point (planning for 2 or 3 kids by then, and one is already on the way).
It does makes sense to just do it as a group/family vacation of sorts but I def want to do something on a larger scale than just a dinner party at home. Thanks for the feedback and keep it coming!
MemberI think it’s totally reasonable, but I would only expect a crowd of 10-20.
MemberI think it’s really hard to base this answer on anyone else’s experiences. It all depends on your friends and family, their finances, and how you announce the event.
In my social circle, a 10-year anniversary/vow renewal/whatever to the Caribbean wouldn’t be overly popular, for a couple of reasons, but mainly because the cost of the trip would be more than what most would be willing to spend to attend “someone else’s party” even if it meant they could have a nice tropical vacation at the same time. But if we had the same party/reception/whatever in Chicago or New Orleans, we’d have a huge crowd.
MemberFor 10 years, no. If it was my 90 year old grandparents who decided to do something for their 70th that’s a different story.
Member@MissHobbit: I can understand that. The likelihood is that we would pay for our most immediate family which, including us, would be 16 people by itself. I’m thinking at least another 10 people from extended family/friends.
MemberYSQueen… I think you should do whatever you want, if you want to renew your vows then do it! your true friends and family will be there with smiles on it. no matter how long you have been married. Enjoy planning
Member@YSQueen: Let’s see:
1) you are already married
2) you want me to spend hundreds of dollars
3) go to a place I’m not interested in seeing
4) use vacation time to go there, precious vacaiton time
No, sorry, I would not attend.
But that said, I don’t understand why anyone attends regular Caribbean & Florida weddings that lots of people have. I like travel but see, *I* want to pick the places I travel to.
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