Post # 1
I’ve never actually been to a shower…not a baby shower, not a bridal shower, nothing. All I have ever heard about showers is how people don’t seem to like going…or at least thats what I’ve heard from my mother.
Because this is all I’ve really known of showers, I am feeling all kinds of irked about mine coming up next weekend. I wasn’t even sure if I wanted one or was going to have one, but my bridesmaids decided that I needed one. I felt strange about inviting people and now I feel strange about RSVP’s that are coming in…whether they are yes or no. I also feel really kind of bothered almost that my girls and my mother (who is already helping me WAY more than I would ever ask) are planning it all, paying for it all and not letting me help.
It feels selfish. Don’t get me wrong, I have never cowered away from attention and I appreciate everything these ladies and my family have done for me, but I’m not used to having something be all about me. When people tell me it’s “your day!” I really can’t stand it!
I don’t know…I’m conflicted. Do people really like to go to these things? Or is it something they just feel bound to? Honest opinions, please!
Post # 3
I think that showers are completely what you make of them. Good food and drink, fun people and conversation, and a pleasant, comfortable setting can make for a great time for everyone. Just sitting around watching someone open presents, though, is by itself not the most entertaining thing in the world. I think if the people who attend your shower all get along well, then they’ll have a good time hanging out with you and with each other and celebrating with you.
Post # 4
Personally, I like showers -I think they’re fun. My mom and sister are planning mine, and won’t let me help with anything. My mom asked that I let them do this for me, so I gave in. I think of it as an honor that I have people who care about me and are willing to do overly nice things for me. 🙂
Post # 5
I think of it as an honor as well, I guess I just have this insecurity about people being there because they feel inclined to be. Something I definitely need to get over.
Post # 6
I honestly love them and wanted to do even more for my MOH’s bridal shower but her family did it all.
Post # 7
I hate them. I’m sorry. I don’t even want them myself. I’ve been to so many in my life and as an adult, they are just as boring/painful/embarassing as they were as a child. To me, everyone has to ooh and ahh over dish towels. They take up HOURS on a Saturday afternoon and you usually end up eating fruit, pasta salad and punch…followed by cake. In addition to all of that, the games are just awful. Especially any game that requires you to ‘steal’ a present from another guest because the old ladies are vicious and in the end the ‘present’ is an ugly picture frame or a mini-calendar full of flowers.
Seriously, I’ve been to so many showers….I have over 30 first cousins alone. The typical shower as described above sucks. If you can make them fun, do it! I threw a shower for a girlfriend and it was both a surprise and also, a very simple brunch at her favorite restaurant. We brought gifts and she opened them but we also had bloody marys and amazing food. No games. No gift bags. It was soooooo much better than the ones that I’ve endured with my family. Urgh.
Post # 8
I like the free food, but watching people open presents is a huge snoozefest for me.
Post # 9
I LOVE showers…both baby and bridal. I have a big, loud, rowdy family so they make every event super fun. We usually save opening gifts to the very end so if people want to leave prior to…it’s no big deal. But then again….we are the type of family to throw bbq’s and invite everybody over on a whim.
Post # 10
ok, so i’m getting that the typical shower tends to be really lame but there are different ways to make it fun. i have no idea what mine will be like…but my friends and family are not the typical bunch, so maybe i shouldn’t worry?
Post # 11
I am not a fan of bridal showers, but baby showers for new moms I enjoy. I made it clear to my bms that I DID NOT want a bridal shower, they’re totally awesome and are gathering some ladies together for a brunch, no presents allowed. I don’t like that the whole point of a bridal shower is to shower the bride with gifts, a wedding couple gets enough gifts at/for the wedding! Baby showers are nice because it’s celebrating the pregnancy and giving the new expecting mom a fun time. IDK, that’s just me, I’ve been to a couple of bridal showers that have been boring, awkward, no fun. I see that some look great though, themed ones that are more entertaining, but personally not for me. If your friends and fam aren’t the typical bunch, I don’t think you should worry, no matter what it is an honor and people doing something really nice for you.
Post # 12
I like showers if 1) I know people there and 2) You don’t make me play games.
I like them because there’s usually good food and it’s fun to see the presents.
Post # 13
Regardless of the type of shower (bridal or baby), I have never met anyone who didn’t enjoy them. Obviously some people don’t like them, which is fine and in that case they shouldn’t attend, but you’ll have both types of people no matter what type of event it is.
Post # 14
- Wedding: April 2011 - The Tribute Golf Club
I’ve enjoyed all of the showers that I’ve been too.
Post # 15
I’ve complained about every shower I’ve ever had to go to, but always had fun once I got there. Really, I don’t think most people enjoy going to showers, it’s mostly fun for the person gettng the presents!
That said, I had my bridal shower two weeks ago and I LOVED every second of it. I felt so overwhelmed and spoiled and loved. Just remember that the people who are coming to your shower are coming to celebrate you. Be happy, gracious, and friendly, and everyone will have a good time!
Post # 16
I’m not a fan of bridal showers. However, there are a couple of people who have mentioned that they want to throw me a shower and I agreed to it. Who knows if they will, but if they do, I’ll just enjoy the company, food and drink/s!