Post # 1
My dramatic mother just told me that no one really likes going to weddings and the whole open bar part started as a way to make a boring, awkward event more fun. I’ve always been excited about attending the weddings that I’ve been invited to, but that might just be because I’m unmarried. What about the aunts, uncles, single guys, cousins, and friends… will they be happy to travel to support me or is my mom right?
I’ve been happy to plan this big event because I’ve felt like it was a way to thank everyone for coming out to support me, but hearing that they’ll sit there bored and unenthusiastic is killing the fun of it all. Is a wedding worth putting the money and time into?
Post # 3
I love going to weddings, assuming I know at least one of the couple fairly well. The only time I wasn’t *that* into it was when I went to the wedding of one of my husband’s co-workers. I had only met him once and had never met the bride and only knew one or two other people there.
But if it’s the wedding of a family member, one of my husband’s family members, or a friend…I love weddings. I always tear up during the ceremony; there is something just so moving about seeing two people promise to spend the rest of their lives together.
And receptions? Always fun, with or without alchohol. It’s still a time to have a nice meal, hang out with friends and family and wish the new couple well. Of course, when you do add some alcohol and get to see your tipsy sixty-year old Aunt Barb attempt to dance to hip hop…the fun factor does go up!
Post # 4
It sounds like your mother is being dramatic! Lots of people here have had fun weddings-just check out their recaps/photos! Sorry your mom is being a kill-joy. It’s important to remember why you are getting married. As much as I love all the details, I think that some people get too worried, and forget to enjoy the process and fun of planning, and the reason that their is a wedding-sometimes anyway! Best Wishes. Share your ideas with us. 🙂
Post # 5
I personally love weddings! I think they are a lot of fun. Perhaps it’s the alcohol and dancing at most of them that makes it fun but I also love getting to see a lot of people that I don’t normally see. Weddings are a great excuse to get everyone together. I must admit that I am not excited about going to weddings where I will no almost no one and to be honest, I usually politely decline those invitations…
That being said, the people coming will WANT to be there. For the most part they will be enthusiastic and have a great time. I think there may be some people who might sit there bored and unenthusiastic, but they will be in the minority big time.
Post # 6
Yes – people like weddings. I love them. I guess there are some people out there who consider it to be a task or a duty to attend. But there also people (married or not) who love the idea of getting together and eating food and celebrating with family. Weddings have been an important ceremony in lots of cultures (can’t think of a place on earth that doesn’t have some kind of wedding tradition)
People get together in numbers for weddings and funerals. Much better to be celebrating a wedding I think. I’m sure there will be many family and friends whoe will be excited to attend your wedding and support you! But the free booze doesn’t hurt either!!
Post # 7
I’m an abrasive misanthrope with the social skills of a turnip who doesn’t drink – and I love weddings!
As Neva said, it’s moving to watch two people promise themselves to one another, and I love seeing people dance and chat and hug the cousin they haven’t seen in years or quietly freak out about what Aunt Millie decided to wear.
Not sure why your mom decided to rain on your parade like that… It almost sounds like she’s envious or jealous?
Post # 8
I LOVE weddings! I wish I knew more people who got married sometimes. lol I really rarely get to go to one, so maybe it’s because of that. And other people might not be as excited if they are constantly going to weddings. But I love them. I love the bride, I love the groom, I love the ceremony, I love to see every bride’s taste in the colors and details and dresses. I love it all. lol
Post # 9
I love weddings! The only time I haven’t enjoyed them was when I was single if I was invited without a +1!
Post # 10
I haven’t been to many weddings. To my mind, one of the best parts of them is catching up with all of the friends and relatives that you only see at weddings and funerals. Any other entertainment is just a bonus.
Post # 11
Thanks for the positive words!
I’m kinda feeling like I should make sure to make room to invite as many of my girlfriends as possible- I know that they’ll probably be as excited as I would be.
Post # 12
I love weddings! Even if I don’t know the couple very well I always get super excited! The ceremony is always so moving and receptions are a blast! Wedding season = my favorite season!
Post # 13
I do love the ones where I know the couple or at least one of the couple well. Last September two of my best friends from college got married and I was so excited because I got to go to TWO friends’ weddings and they were marrying EACH OTHER! And it just made it so great, and so many of my friends from college were there too so it was a blast. But a few summers ago I started dating a guy and three weeks later was his date at his sister’s wedding, who I met the day of the rehearsal, so I knew basically no one at that wedding and it was kind of boring. Also there was no bar at all because they are super Christian and it was a morning wedding as well… so I can KIND OF see your mom’s point about the bar.
Post # 14
I do think its true that some people are like “uggghh I have to go to this wedding” it is what it is, some people don’t like being social.
Personally, I love weddings, I think they are fun and I just love em & esp if there is dancing!
Post # 15
I love weddings, but I will qualify it. I love them if there isn’t a huge amount of them in the same time period that all require me to travel. This is a situation I am in this year, and while I really want to go to all of these weddings, it isn’t possible. It is exhausting, and while I want to be really excited for all of them, it’s wearing on me.
Post # 16
I am a pretty anti-social person,and I do not drink alcohol, and I still love weddings! Happy people and free food – what’s not to love?