Post # 32
That’s such a rude and intrusive question. A couple’s use of birth control (or not) is their own business, nobody else’s.
I’ve been asked “was it planned/was it a surprise/were you trying?” lots of times and I don’t ever think I’ll get used to it (and it actually was a surprise, but I’m 30 and have been married almost 3 years so you’d think people wouldn’t ask). I’ve started telling people we were trying for a puppy.
Post # 33
@MrsSmokey: +1 (another BC baby on the way)!
Post # 34
@SapphireSun: Yay for you and your family 🙂
Post # 35
I am guilty of this, not recently but when my friends started having kids there was that transition from “oh shit what are you going to do?” to realizing that it may have actually been something they planned.
Post # 36
I’m not pregnant but people actually asked me AT MY WEDDING! if I was because I had my hand on my stomach during part of the ceremony – ever think that maybe I was nervous about being in front of that many people – some of which I didn’t even know! Sorry – just needed to vent 😉
Post # 37
@MrsSmokey: This is what annoys me. People who automatically assume if the pregnancy wasn’t planned that “they were being irresponsible”.
THANK you! +100
And, even if there was a mistake made in regards to use of birth control – shit happens and you make the best of it and things turn out for the best. Leave the judgement at home.
Post # 38
@Hyperventilate: Thank you! I have a very close friend that I’m not sure if the baby was planned our not. She is open about their financial situation and immigration status and has told me she wanted to get the immigration issued resolved at least before TTC…. and if I were in their situation a baby would not be good news. So I don’t want to rub salt in their wound. The husband is super excited, but the wife is just meh about it all so I am the awkward friend that never knows what to say around them now. I don’t have the courage to just come out and ask despite how openly we talk to each other.
Post # 39
I guess I was having a hormonal day;) If it was a friend then they would KNOW we were trying! If it’s a stranger or random aquaintance it is none of their business… “Were you trying?” is another favorite. I agree with another comment than everyone has something to say when they see a pregnant belly! For some reason I am just feeling very private and protective this time around.