Post # 1
- Wedding: May 2018 - City, State
I’ve noticed that a lot of people ask how big my center stone is in real life. I dont mind telling people I know what size it is. However, when strangers/ very casual acquaintances ask, I find it odd. Do people ever ask you what carat size your ring is? How do you respond? Am I the only one who thinks this is slightly rude?
Post # 2
No one has ever asked me what size my center stone is. I think it can be rude depending on the person it is coming from and why they are asking. If anyone asked I didn’t want to answer, I would probably say something like, “It’s the perfect size” with a giggle, while secretly wishing them a multitude of stubbed toes.
Post # 3
That’s so rude! Nobody ever asked me that but if anyone ask i would not answer. Nor would i answer any other questions about my ring i find rude like if its “real” or the cost. Its just none of their business!
Post # 4
I have people ask me a lot actually. I politely say the truth: I dont know, but it’s so beautiful and I’m proud to wear it and that my fiancé is so thoughtful/kind/etc
Post # 5
Only one of my friends asked me about carat size, and I just told her straight out. She likes jewelry a lot, so I didn’t feel like she was judging me through my ring. I agree it would be a little weird for a random person to ask me those specs because you don’t know if they have ulterior motives.
Post # 6
My work friends did, albeit sheepishly. But we work in jewelry so they love talking about gemstones. I told them because I sensed it was genuine curiosity not any other motives.
it is rude in general, because it’s like asking how much something costs (which my coworkers also asked- that one I didn’t answer). It’s always okay to say “I don’t know exactly”. Which is true, you probably don’t remember exactly the dollars and cents with tax and all 🙂
Post # 7
No one has ever asked me that but people comment on how big it is, never has anyone asked me straight out.
Post # 8
- Wedding: May 2018 - City, State
Well I’m glad I’m not ultra sensitive for thinking its a little rude! I’m not gonna lie, I’m very curious about the size of a few of my friends rings, but I would never have the balls/gull to actually ask! That’s why it always strikes me as so odd when people ask me.
Post # 9
yes people asked me all the time when I got engaged. I think it was to see how much my husband spent on it!
Post # 10
No one has asked me. I mean I have told pretty much everyone that I’m close to (my mom/dad and closest friends). Aquaintences never seem to ask. If anyone ever asked me though I would think it would be straight curiosity and nothing more, but it would probably strike me as odd to why they would even care/want to know badly enough that they’d ask me.
Post # 11
One coworker. He has a live-in girlfriend and his line of questioning quickly made it apparent that he was in the process of researching things. Given that, I didn’t find it rude.
Edited to add: I forgot, one more: my mom’s boss. She is very into jewelry, so I also didn’t think that was rude.
Post # 12
No. I had a few comments about the size when I was first engaged but not in a nasty way.
Post # 13
sure, but in a way that made it clear that they thought my center stone was bigger than it actually is.
I blame / credit my tiny fingers.
Post # 15
I have more people telling me it can’t be real than asking me what the size is. That’s what pisses me off.