(Closed) Do people ask you how big your stone is?

posted 6 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper

I never get asked, but if I was I’d just tell them.

Post # 4
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I’ve only been asked by 2 people, SIL and CIL and I told them.  Usually I think it’s sort of rude to ask, but SIL and I had been talking rings and getting engaged and all the details that go along with it and we’re totally open about it.  And CIL asked probably cause it was fittingn for the situation.  I had my ring on the table when putting on sunblock and Mother-In-Law goes “look at how TINY that ring is!!!”  (She meant the ring size, 4.5) and I started poking fun at my husband telling him “see!! your mom said its small!!” and so CIL asked how big it was.

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2011

Yes.  and I tell them.

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@Meowkers:  On weddingbee. Not IRL. I tell though 🙂

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Only once in real life, and it was by my best friend, so I didn’t mind. If a random person asked me, I’d be a little annoyed, though.

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I have been asked a few times before, I just tell them.

ETA: Just to explain further – it doesn’t offend me because my ring is out in public for anyone to see.  Anyone who knows anything about diamonds could tell on their own how big it is.  It’s not like it’s secret information.  So I figure if they ask, it’s because they are curious and don’t know much about diamonds.

Asking how much it costs is something different, that’s more personal information.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

yeah, I usually just say around a carat. I do get kind of bashful when people make a giant deal out of my ring though, it feels so awkward.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I’ve had a few, but its only been by people who are asking for a good reason, like they’ve been looking at rings and want to compare a real life example. Also, isn’t a solitaire, but 9 separate diamonds so sometimes people want to know what the total weight is because of the way its spread out.  I don’t mind people asking at all about the weight of the diamonds.  I do, however, mind people asking what it cost.  Yes, I’m  the bee who got her ring for 97% off, but people IRL who ask are asking out of curiosity about out finances so they suck 😛

Post # 11
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Bumble bee

I don’t think I’ve had anyone ask.  Maybe a coworker did, but we were discussing diamonds, and he was telling me about the ring he was having made for his gf/fi.

Post # 12
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Not on size, but one person said (in a resturant around tons of people) “Is that real?” I was just like… ummm… yeah. It was really awkward.

Post # 12
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Newbee

Everybody around me ask. I Feel alittle bit annoying sometime. I don’t know why it matters to them. And hell, some of them even ask how much it is, I feel so uncomfortable about that. Why would ppl like asking about price?

Post # 13
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

Yes, but normally by other almost-engaged people. Like my Maid/Matron of Honor is in the “waiting stage” and was like, “I want one around your size. What size is it anyway? If you don’t mind me asking?” So I didn’t find that rude at all and told her obviously.

Post # 14
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I don’t think anyone has ever asked in real life. If they did though I would tell.

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Only by a friend of mine who is trying to buy a ring for his Girlfriend who has the same size fingers. He was pricing things out and wanted to know the ct size. I didn’t have a problem with that. I think the only time I would have an issue would be if someone were to say something about my ring’s diamonds with disdain.

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