Post # 47
I have been asked by a couple of people, but only two family members (one being my Mum) and a close friend and I CANNOT tell a lie. I got a ridiculously good deal on my ring as I got it from the store’s preowned section. It was 1700.00 and I got it for $500.00.
See? I couldn’t even not tell here in this thread!
Post # 49
The only people who have asked were looking to get engaged soon so I told them. I don’t really have a problem with anyone knowing though.
Post # 50
My ring is a family heirloom, so it didn’t “cost” us anything–which is what I tell the occasional person who asks that (rude, in my opinion) question.
Sometimes they’ll persist and inquire as to the appraisal/insurance value, and I respond that, to me, it’s priceless!
Post # 51
wow people persist on a dollar figure? that boggles me. I like your response tho, especially because its geniune
Post # 52
I don’t think I’ve ever had anyone ask. I think my best friend asked but that was only because I told her I found out how much it was and was surprised.
Post # 53
No one has asked how much it cost, but people try to size it up and price it out all the time by asking everything else about it. People ask all the time how many carats, what color, clarity, etc. I just say I don’t know even though I do so they’ll drop it. No one needs to know how much DH spent on my ring, that is totally personal private info.
Post # 54
The only people who have asked me are the women at my nail salon. I find it to be so incredibly rude, but I try to chalk it up to a cultural difference or something. I just tell them I don’t know. It’s not lying because I only know a ballpark figure anyway.
Post # 55
Ugh, I got asked by a co-worker and I said ” I have no idea”..but I found it soooo rude. I would never ask that!
P.S: My mom asked me out of curiousity and I told her the truth..it did make me feel a bit uncomfy but only because my parents are not big spenders..they live very modestly.
Post # 56
When it comes to money it is none of anyone’s business and I myself don’t ask such questions.
I am still appalled at the fact that my FI’s ENTIRE office knows how much he spent on my custom Engagement Ring and they still gab about it. One girl even went on a jealous rant on how “materialistic” I was for wanting a ring that expensive and that if she were a man she “would never be with a girl who needed a ring this big.” The only reason they know how much it costs is a friend of a co-worker worked at the jewelry store, told one co-worker how much my Fiance spent and thus the flood gates opened. It is none of their business, none.
Post # 57
That is so petty and ridiculous. And that girl that says ‘if I were a man blah blah blah’ needs smacked in the mouth.
At the end of the day, it is the decision of the person proposing as to how much they spend on a ring. When I found out how much my ring cost, Fiance looked very embarassed b/c he knew that if I knew sooner how much it was I would never have accepted it….I can’t believe he spent that much on silly ‘ole ME. However, no matter what the cost of a ring, the symbolism behind it is always the same.
All of those people need to learn some etiquette, and that co worker had no business telling anyone what he paid. That burns me up!
Post # 58
Personally, I don’t think I’ve ever been asked. If I was asked, I think I would say something like “three months salary, haha!” because they don’t know his salary, and they can suck it.
oh my gosh. that would make me so… angry. I don’t really get angry but the idea of someone blabbing something that’s so personal is so blatantly rude to me. Like if I worked at a clothing store and my friend came in and dropped some cash on her fall wardrobe, I wouldn’t gossip about how materialistic she is, I’d be happy for her new threads. (I realize this isn’t a perfect metaphor because clothes aren’t the same and not as personal as a ring, but you get the point). That chaps my butt. It irks me. Girl, I’m mad for you.
Post # 59
Well, no has asked but I wouldn’t be sure what to tell them. The setting wasn’t all that exspensive and the actual center stone was a gift from a family member who used to deal in gems. And that stone is worth about 10x what we could have bought because the quality is incredble, even though it isn’t that large, it is almost totally flawless and clear. But honestly I think it is no ones business. Unless of course it is like…someone you are borrowing money from cause your broke and just spent ungodly sums of money on a ring…
Post # 60
I’ve never been asked, but I’m kind of paranoid about it. I am fairly young, and look even younger, but I also work in/live in a pretty materialistic area. So I never know if people are going to judge me for having a ring that looks TOO expensive or NOT expensive enough. Not that I really care either way, but it makes me uncomfortable. I hate that people can be so judgemental.
Post # 61
Personally I dont think that is anyones business…